Sunday/Monday (overnight camp) I am going to this new years celebration. How can i be more outgoing around more people my age? i am usually shy at first, then i warm up. but I want to talk to more than a few people.
2006-12-28 13:15:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The one friend, that i know will be there, is a little shy at first too.
2006-12-28 13:22:50 · update #1
The bottom line is that people like to be entertained and made to feel comfortable. If you just remind yourself that everyone you meet would much rather be enjoying your company than standing next to a wall-flower things get a lot easier.
I had to speak at a friend's wedding a few months ago and was feeling very nervous about it until I stood up and looked at all those people, most of them strangers, and just told myself that they want to be entertained, they want me to do well, they were all rooting for me. If you remind yourself that the people around you truly want you to be confident and interesting then it gets a lot easier.
Another thing you might remember is that you'll never discover the secret to be being confident in social situations. There isn't one. It takes practice. It's not like one day you'll figure it out, you've got to work at it. It's just the way the world works so you might as well start practicing now. It's not going to get easier next time around.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 13:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by eric b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats like me because I'm always shy at first with new people but then I get more comfortable once I've with them for a while but what really helps is if I'm with a close friend with new people around to meet and I'm not sure if this will help but when I get hyper I get so outgoing that I just yell at random people but not in a mean way though lol
2006-12-28 21:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by stacie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take yourself too seriously. Dr. Phil says "don't worry what others are thinking of you because if you knew how little time they spend actually thinking of you, then you would realize how insignificant you insecurities are!" I found comfort in that because it just makes sense. Most people are too busy thinking about what you might be thinking about them or the issues in their life that are important to them! If that doesn't let you off the hook then you want to feel shy. So, lighten up on yourself and relax and have a good time!
Happy New Year!
2006-12-28 21:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here sweetie, I used to be not able to talk to my own parents, now im telling thme everything. Being shy makes embarresment too. I became less shy by doing things that outgoing people do. like talking to my class and vaulintering to do stuff in my class. Sure I got a tingle inside me but after i did it another shyness thing to cross off my list!
2006-12-28 21:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, you have to be really interested in the individuals you want to approach: it just works better that way for some reason. And you have to be really confident in you own identity and secure enough not to care whether or not someone is interested in you. Its like, if you believe that everyone will be interested in what you have to say, it "reflects" and attracts interested people to you. You gotta make them feel like they "got it goin on"! Dont ask me, but I know that when someone shows me attention as if I am the most interesting person in the room, It makes me want to have them around!
2006-12-28 21:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by NICE LADY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and be yourself! Nobody's gonna laugh at you. If you embarass yourself, remember that stuff like that happens to everyone. Ok, so someone might laugh at you, but they aren't going to remember what happened. People are drawn naturally to people who are confident. So relax, be yourself! When you do, your confidence will shine through. PS-If you still feel nervous, practice talking to yourself in front of a mirror, that way you'll feel more prepared to chat.
2006-12-28 21:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be a little more social you try to start a convo with other people be the one to try to getto know some one else!
2006-12-28 21:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you would be less shy if you have friends arould you.try that.take a friend with you and you guys go and talk 2 other people.dont be shy.
good luck baby gurl
2006-12-28 21:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Dalicia Brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋