People see you're expecting and automatically look at your ring finger to see if you are married! How rude is this..it is none of their business whether i am married or engaged or single. I always felt like ppl were judging me..I just wanted to tell ppl not to do this. Did anyone else experience this??
2006-12-28 13:11:01 · 26 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hey ReadyToRock..don't treat me like trailor trash. I made a mistake, gave the baby up for adoption, and I'm now 22 and in med school.
2006-12-28 13:19:37 · update #1
Don't stress any of the negitive!!! Life's too short!!!
The only person's opinion that matters is yours - You're having a baby, you are blessed!!! Don't let anyone ruin this for you!
Don't you know that I am a HAPPILY married prego and I got all kinds of looks at my bare ring finger- Little do they know a diamond in my band fell out and is being repaired... I laugh at the dirty looks because in my opinion their life is SO PATHETIC that all they can do is think the worst of me - it's none of their business!! PSH! :)
2006-12-28 13:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dorrie J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am married and pregnant with #2, and for both pregnancies I have had to take my ring off due to swelling in the hands - this is actually a common thing. While I was pregnant with my daughter, I did get a few funny looks at my ring finger. I am only just starting to show now, but it is my daughter (now 15 months) catching people's attention more so than my ring finger this time around. People are just rude and tend to assume things when they don't even have all the facts straight. You should just ignore them, it is your business, not theirs.
2006-12-28 13:17:48 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I experiance the same thing. I work front desk at a hotel and am 36 weeks prego...seems like every person takes a look at my finger almost. It does bother me, I've been with the daddy for 3 years, waited for him to get back from iraq a year, we had a ring but once we found out we were pregnant we returned it (which was VERY hard) because we really couldnt afford it and he just got out of the military. It's not right to judge, nobody ever really knows the persons situation.
2006-12-28 13:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by ashleylynne_84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got the same thing when I was pregnant with my first child and it bugged me. What was worse is some people would ask if the only reason I was engaged was because I was pregnant. I not so politely told them that my fiance had proposed to me 4 days before we even suspected a pregnancy.
I am pregnant with my second child right now and get even nastier looks when my son and I go out with my mom and sister (we have dinner together once a week). And, the stares get even worse if it is on a day when I don't wear my wedding ring because it is uncomfortable.
2006-12-28 13:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 and married. However I look very young (about 10 years younger than I am) and I often didn't wear my wedding ring due to swollen fingers. And I can say that I definitely got stares in public and absolutely felt judged. And now with the baby I still get stares. At first it bothered me, but then I realized I have bigger things to worry about than what people are thinking of me. Don't let other people's reactions bother you, it's none of their business.
2006-12-28 13:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy...LT 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's what she did she switched together with her twin Nocole while Nicole got here out for some seconds she performed it off and held her lower back while it grow to be her abdomen hurting from Victoria's Kick. The Bella Twins are a Heel Tag group and that they're going to save doing this to Win suits for sure Tazz and J.R do no longer khnow they switched or that Brie has a twin Sis.
2016-10-28 14:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg..I know what you are talking about...I got pregnant with my 1st child..wasnt engaged or married or anything..and everyone gave me dirty looks..well lets just say some of those people who treated me bad and gave me dirty looks...they are now unmarried and each have about 3 kids....with my 2nd kid..i was married..but couldnt fit my rings on anymore due to the swelling..and people kept giving me looks....finally it got to the point where i took my husband with me everywhere...another thing i cant stand is when people ask to touch my belly..and i got so big with my 2nd child..everyone asked if i was having twins..made me feel HUGE...
I'm sure next time I get pregnant I won't be able to handle the stares and comments anymore...yell at some people...blame it all on the hormones. Congrats on med school! I hope you do well!
2006-12-28 13:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by mizzms 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I found out I was pregnant before we were engaged. (We did not get engaged because I was pregnant, it was something we were planning anyway, and he had already purchased the ring months prior.) I did notice tho that people treated me much differently after he proposed and I wore the ring. All of a sudden people are happy for you. At first it was like.. "Oh you're pregnant.. is this good?" After when I was wearing the ring, they said.. "Congrats!!"
People are silly, and they're still stuck in the 60s or something. It's 2006 (almost 7) and I know way more single parents than married ones!
2006-12-28 13:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Abby 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you on this- it's not their business, and if they say something to you, tell them that! I had family members who judged me for nto being married at the time, but you know what? It was the best for me and my soon-to-be husband... we weren't married when I was pregnant- we didn't want it to be because of the baby... but because of our love for one another and to make sure we were ok together... we later married, but not because of our son. Anyways, everyone situation is different. And I say if a young couple goes out and gets married right away, it will end up in divorce later... there are so many divorces in the world, so why not make sure it's something you want so you can avoid divorce in the future. Those who judge don't understand and can be cruel.
Don't worry about it- at least try not to... live your life, and be happy :) even if you are single, engaged, or married... as long as you love that precious baby, that's all that matters!
"live, love, laugh!"
2006-12-28 13:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by m930 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When I was pregnant I went to this crisis center, not because it was a crisis but because they give you two free layettes and maternity clothes. But the catch is when you go in you cna't let them know you already have taken a test and know. And then they take you in a room and make you watch a movie about babys or GOD. And then they come in and talk to you and then tell you if you are. That is the only way you get the clothes.
Now the lady who did me was very pushy. Asking me why we weren't married and stuff. I mean me and the kids dad have been together for almost 7 years. We have two kids. I todl the lady we have been together for a while and planned on getting married when we had the money. I mean wha tis a peice of paper. And so soon. A peice of paper makes it ok to have a baby with someone...???
So anyways I kept telling her how important it was to me to have the wedding that I want. Not to just rush off and she just kept with it. I mean it was crazy.
So in the end I just ended up agreeing with her so I could get out of there.
But she made me mad. I don't think a peice of paper justifys whether or not we should have a baby.
2006-12-28 13:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋