I am pregnant and some people have told me what to do on everything from symtoms of pregnancy to that I should get on food stamps right now (we wouldnt quilify we earn to much) They (mainily one person I work close with ) say things without me asking for any advice or hint there of. How would you get people and some more than others to work on themself and leave me alone?
2006-12-28 13:07:12 · 16 answers · asked by iamblessed 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ha! The curse of pregnancy. Practise a big ol' sh!t-eating grin in front of the mirror and wear it well.
2006-12-28 13:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humans are inately curious and like to contribute. When you are pregnant people like to contribute by giving you advice, telling you there stories, rubbing your belly. It seems it's the only socially acceptable time you break a social morey and reach over and touch a persons belly. It is the facination of another life growin in there. I have been pregnant four times and I find being patient with people helps to some extent because most don't mean harm by it. They think they are helping. They want to feel signifigant in your life or they want to find a common bond with you. Try not to bite your co workers head off but just nod and move on. You know what your going to do already them suggesting stuff will not change that unless it's good. Remember from their perspective they are trying to be helpful. Sometimes it's hard to relate and be nice and converse with a person if they are always shut up and you really want to have a good relationship with the people at work so you try by mutual communications. I think I'd be frustrated with a person who always never wanted to converse with me. But If you seriously want to be a hermit and left alone at work politely say I am sorry but I have to get this work done and leave. You will be precieved as cold but you will get what you want and people will leave you alone.
2006-12-28 21:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew this myself! After years of it being unheard of to talk about other people's business, now it's like society can't stay out of others' lives!!! Somehow you have to tell yourself that it's not worth your attention, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, people wont just let you be - even if you ask! My in laws are EXTREMELY open and when I finally opened up a little bit, I ended up feeling very vulnerable & exposed- my advise to you is to know inside that you have no reason to explain your situation to them unless you want to, and try to focus on your pregnancy - it goes by quickly, enjoy your private baby time- once the baby comes, they'll be trying to get at it too!!
2006-12-28 21:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dorrie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with them and tell them that it's kind of overwhelming with all of the information and when you're ready to take the advice, you'll let them know.
Do remember, however, that most people when they give you advice are just excited for you and want to help. Especially if you've never been pregnant before you probably aren't aware of the complete affect this is going to have on your life....they're not trying to butt in, they're trying to help so as frustrated as you might feel, just give what they're saying (most of it) some thought because you might wish you knew more about this later on.
2006-12-28 21:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, it wont stop even after you have the baby, my mom told me to tell people "thank you i'll take that under consideration" but mostly just laugh inside i have 5 children and according to some people mostly childless ones i'm doing everything wrong, I think they think they are being helpful, but just love your child and do your best dont worry about what they say you'll be great
2006-12-28 21:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learned after having 5 kids is when you are pregnant and your belly starts to show it, it is open ivitation for unsolicited advice.
Just a right of passage into motherhood :) Try to ignore them and tell them that you are doing just fine and making your own decisions.
2006-12-28 21:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing like being pregnant to bring out the busybodies, huh? I was forever getting advice and nosy questions from perfect strangers when I was pregnant! Just politely say "Thanks" to the person serving up the advice and let it go. Don't argue, don't feel the need to defend youself or explain your choices. It's no one's business but yours and you loved ones. Good luck!
2006-12-28 21:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile sweetly, listen, then ignore.
People love to give advice to pregnant women, whether the woman needs help or not :)
Wait til you have your baby, it will get worse!
2006-12-28 21:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. I hate people telling me what to expect or what to do. Especially when they tell me "you are going to get sooo big". They dont know and I don't either, so I dont care! You can tell them you don't care and if it hurts their feelings.....tough. They should shut up and leave you alone!
2006-12-28 21:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by DevelopedBeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that when and if you want their advice you will ask for it then don't say anything else.
2006-12-29 00:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋