My "ex-best friend", you could say, all of a sudden turned against me. She was throwing this lame christmas party, with people I never had fun with. She told me that i could come if I wanted to but the next day was "mine" and we would hang out.....so what i thought the mature thing to do was make casual plans with another friend. The kind I could cancel easily because I wasn't quite sure If my position or invitation at this part y would hold up. I told this friend I would come to it later, while I did these exciting plans with my other two friends. I made sure to come down there beforehand to give my secret santa present to the pile, her xmas gift, and a movie i thought they could watch during. My plans went later than expected and we even slid off the road. When I got home I had MAJOR family issues, the kind so personal i cant even tell you OR her...becase it makes me far too depressed. I came down there 2 and a half hours late, where she comes to the door screams some bitchy things and locks the door. She has her other best friend, or I call her the "queen bee" cuz she is so beautiful and is so popular in their group (not according to me but to my ex bff), tell me im uninvited and scowled at me, telling me the horrible things ive done and am doing to my ex bff. I stood their calmly making sure not to deck her right in front of the ENTIRE party ( thirty people i can barely tolerate but i am kind to them anyhow). She was even wearing the xmas gift that i gave to my ex bff. After that i left, not even feeling the hurt that this queen bee tried to put upon me. My exxy even calls my other best friend to scream at her and tell her all these lies (that i supposivly did). Exxy even has her mother talk to my step mother. This is strictly between me and her. She ahnnilates friend ships left and right becuase she has strict rules and is trying to make friends with what she believes will get her more popular. She leaked out all of my and my friends secrets and claims i have no chance with any of the guys I like. Her friends glare at me in the halls and even spy on me for her! I ignore it, becuase I always knew my exxy has mean streaks and will never have a true friend. I really dont care if i set our friendship straight, but should i just apologize for the sake of being a good person?
2006-12-28 12:57:34 · 8 answers · asked by kat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Relax. Seriously, some day next June you will be lying in the sun, with people you like and respect, and who care about you. You will have paid your way - you won't owe your social introduction or have any obligation to those around you - and you will relax and be yourself with them.
And if it doesn't happen next June, it will happen for you at a point in your life when you can see your frantic friend for what she lacks - because you will no longer envy her awful greed and terrible need for poise. Which you have now, because you are being kind and figuring out why a person would behave like this.
This time of year is pretty much the "Thanksgiving" backlash; when people expect soo much from life all at once, and attack their most generous acquaintances later, for not being everything they'd hoped they would be. Sometimes, we admire people for being what we aspire to be in life. Sounds like your friend looks up to you for being socially aware and sensitive, and wishes that she had your patience to see past that. She can't get past that, and her pain is - hers. Frankly, it's not yours. You can't give her your peace of mind, and although she can try to take yours away, it won't help any with her situation. What you'll remember is her greed.
You could say "I hope you aren't still hurt because I arrived late? You're so popular that I'm surprised you even missed my arrival in such a crowd. Thanks for looking out for me, it was really nice of you." But I would leave it at that - personally I believe you would be wise to forget about keeping in touch when you next change address. I'd think that she is fun & exciting & impressive at the time, but not someone you'd miss over a life of meeting all the people you could meet in an ordinary way. Not looking back.
2006-12-28 13:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't for the life of me figure out why you want to be friends with this person.
You did nothing to her that deserves an apology.
If history is such that you weren't sure your invatation would "hold up", why wouldn't you make other plans?
She invited, you went somewhere more exciting.
If she has lame friends and you don't enjoy yourself with her--just exacty why do you call her a friend?
You owe her nothing. Get on with your life with people who apprecaite and have fun with you.
2006-12-28 13:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people can agree to disagree. Tell her where you were coming from. Say you're not going to hold a grudge against her for it. Life's too short. Also tell her how it made you feel to be disrespected like that at the party. Geez with friends like that who needs enemies.
2006-12-28 13:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apologise is the British version of say sorry. Grammatically the two are suited suited. It entirely relies upon on your united states of residency. it truly is fairly unhappy which you have been criticized simply by fact the two types are truly perfect.
2016-10-28 14:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt apolagize for being late, but you should apologize for came from being late. i actually think you should tell her EXACTLY what you just told us. maybe shell realize SHE was wrong and apologize to u
2006-12-28 13:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by kissie101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did absolutely nothing wrong therefore you should not apologize at all
2006-12-28 13:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jack_Skellington24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go. find you a new friend. she only thinks of herself.
2006-12-28 13:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't no i think
2006-12-28 12:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋