My cousin and her boyfriend have been going out for 2 years now and lately this past year it slowly started to become physical. I told her that they need to talk things through calmly and realisticly for there 1 year old son. And it is not him hitting her its both of them and when I say physical he socked her in the thigh and she socks him in the face. She wants to give up on it and I told her to try to work things out like counseling, because i know that some of the anger comes from her additude and stubborness, and he is an as*hole sometimes too. How can I help?
2006-12-28 12:56:15 · 18 answers · asked by abella_03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should try to stay out of it. I know its hard but that is something they have to work out on their own. If the relationship has turned physical then there is a good possibility it is doomed. She needs to get out for the sake of her son. That is something kids don't need to be subjected to. It is good for parents to raise kids together but not when things are violent. In the long run it will be best for everone if they just part ways. A violent relationship almost always ends in tragedy. If they are not happy then no amount of counseling will fix that. They need just call it quits before there unhappiness hurts and innocent child.. Good Luck
2006-12-28 13:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by tink19812003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is physical abuse the couple should split right away.
No counseling will make this better while they are still living under the same roof especially when there is a child involved.
If after counseling they've learned to control this anger then maybe they can make a life together.
2006-12-28 13:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's better to walk away. I had to leave my kids father for us to become better parents and better friends It has help both of us I'm married to someone and he's married to someone else I'm not sure about the violence in he's relationship but in mines there is no violence It's a good thing So I think she should look into separating for a little while.
2006-12-28 13:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by sun4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE H-LL OUT it will only get worse once a man/women begins the hitting stage it only gets worse.Oh and excuse me as far as going to a class for anger management is concerned it's BOGUS..IT DON'T WORK.Abuse is the number one problem in the United States next to Hunger..When you begin to disrespect ane another it's OVER...
2006-12-28 13:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you tried to suggest counseling!
You could anonamously call thepolice when you know they are fighting and if the police see marks or they admit to physical abuse, then 1 or the other or both could go to jail! That might wake them up!
Protective services could be called if your concerned for the child!
2006-12-28 13:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get out of this relationship. It's dysfunctional and will only lead to something bad. If for no other reason, their son does not need to see this kind of behavior.
2006-12-28 13:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they r doing this in front of the child, that is emotional abuse. u should report them to child services, that will give them a wake up call. maybe they will grow up if they get slapped in the face by the court system.
2006-12-28 13:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by shanadam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her for her safety and for the sake of the kid plus herself to get the he!! outta the relationship and press charges as well! Please? It,s the kid's life at risk,too.Not only her own.These violent relationships get worse.Never,or RARELY any better.
Who knows, he might begin to hit the kid too ,if he hasn,t already done so.Just get her to leave WITH her kid owith her.
2006-12-28 13:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by devonmintuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter how a person is, there is no reason to be hitting her. She needs to take her child and get out, i have seen this same stuff go on with my sister. tell her to leave that stupib S.O.B.
2006-12-28 14:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by howardt1963 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋