Help With Unwanted Pregnancy and Legal Rights?

Question

Two weeks ago I found out that a one night stand is pregnant. She wavered back and forth and decided today that she wants to have the baby. I can't begin to describe how much I have come to despise this girl. She continues to work in a smokey bar, has done no research on pregnancy, and dismissed the suggestion of adoption out of hand. Having a child at this point in life would be disasterous. What are my rights? It's such an awful feeling having someone that I barely know controlling my future.

Answer 1

Her body, her rights.
Your rights ended when you pulled your britches down, bud.

Answer 2

Right now you have no rights. Once the baby is born and paternity is established then you have the right to pay child support. You also have the right to petition for custody or visitation. Don’t expect to get custody unless she’s grossly unfit. Things such as failing to research pregnancy and working in a smoky bar do not make her unfit. And if you continue to view this child as being ‘disasterous’ then I suggest you don’t even ask for visitation, because you don’t need to be around the child. But, 9 months from now, your feelings toward the child may change drastically.

EDITED TO ADD:
Since a couple of people mentioned termination of parental rights…this has to be approved by a judge. Judges are VERY reluctant to do it (even if mom agrees and she claims she doesn’t need your financial help) unless it’s for the purpose of adoption. For one reasons courts do not like to leave a child fatherless, and for another reason, even if Mom doesn’t need your financial help now, ten years from now, she might. Without adoption, the chances of a judge allowing you to voluntarily terminate your parental rights are about the same as the chances of a snowball surviving in h*ll. But, of course, you should discuss it with a local attorney.

Answer 3

Not trying to be mean, so don't take it that way.. your right was to say no or use protection.
The only thing you can do is, when the child is born and you are sure your the father... (if she had a one night stand with you.. chances are she had other one nighters with other people).
However, if its yours (DNA), after it's born you can petition the Family court in your area (not friend of the court, or child support) to terminate your own parental rights. There is no guarantee the court will agree and allow it, but it may be worth a try. However, you understand that if you did this, you may not have to pay child support payments, but you can't come back later and bring the child into your life, it would mean you are not daddy, and you have no rights to do squat, so keep that in mind.
Make sure this would be something that you really would like to do, not just out of anger or disappointment, also keep in mind it's not the baby's fault, but more so, the ones who made him/her.
I hope this was helpful to you and my message wasn't meant to offend you or anyone else, but no child should be made to come into the world unwanted or neglected, because of the parents acting out of selfishness for momentary self gratification.

Answer 4

You have no rights in this matter. The secondhand smoke will make the fetus smaller; could cause the child to have ADHD; and could also cause numerous birth defects. It is shown that fetuses exposed to smoke also are more prone to addictive syndromes, like drugs, alcohol, and there is a 77% chance that the child will grow up to smoke.

If she is drinking in these bars, there is also a risk of FAS.

But again...you don't have any rights in this matter. It's her body, and technically, her baby until it is born.

After the child is born, you will need to establish your intent. You will have to pay support, but you will also have to decide whether you want to be in the child's life, or not.

Answer 5

I am female and this is my response.

I think it is TERRIBLE that a man has no say when the female partner gets pregnant. They both are guilty of playing around but the female gets to decide to have the baby or not. How fair is that? It is NOT!

I understand why the laws are the way they are in regards to child support, but there should be some way for the father to decide his future. The female gets to choose hers.

It is rotten rotten rotten! Many will blame you for your irresponsible act, but it wasn't yours alone...but you will be forced to pay for it whether you want or not! She has the options, you don't. Sorry.

If I got pg and wanted the baby and you didn't, I would feel that it would be my sole responsibly to raise this child. I wouldn't allow you to see him/her or have any rights, but you would be free because of MY choice.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Wow superstar, you have a go go gadget penis for a night and now you want to spoil all your fun the future, and this girls life is none of your business nor her body at this point regarding this unborn child. You should have thought it out before you put on beer googles for a quick lay, your very smart schoolboy, you epitomize 60% of the men on this earth. That's why trash pickup is once a week for you, you find who you think is trashy and then put them out to the curb for pick up well guess what things are changing on your block.

Answer 7

You'll have the right to pay child support and get joint custody.

Hey, those are the consequences of your actions.

She didn't have control of your future before you decided to have unprotected sex, you did. But you gave that up.

If nothing else, get a paternity test before paying up and keep track of bills during pregnancy if you're helping with doctor's visits.

Hard lesson, but live and learn.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear that. Happened to me 11 years ago. I've got a wonderful 10yr old out of it, and things did calm down. But I got lucky. Unfortunately, you cant do much, and the law is not exactly on your side. Pray that you're not the daddy, and no matter what, get a paternity test.

Answer 9

Do you some how think that someone here will tell you that you can legally make her have an abortion? You can't. Sorry. Get a paternity test when it's born then deal with. Next time, wrap it up (and get an AIDs test).

Answer 10

professional selection, that's our physique and we could consistently have the alternative the thank you to apply/abuse it. we be able to destroy our physique (drugs, extra nutrition, contaminated piercings), we've the call of ways are physique is cared for, (in England you are able to decide on NHS or you are able to go inner maximum, you additionally can decide on drugs over others) and we decide on our existence-variety and existence judgements; from what matters we decide directly to ranges to no be counted if we get married or no longer - we could consistently be able to compliment abortion, adoption, or nurturing (and we do...) If the government have been to make abortion unlawful, many greater risky "lower back-highway" abortions may well be carried out, endangering the mummy's wellness. i think of simply by fact there is insubstantial scientific data approximately while "existence" incredibly starts off (if a fetus had a heartbeat is it alive if it can not stay devoid of the mummy?) i think anybody has to confirm while existence starts off for themselves, no be counted if that's at thought then they're going to decide directly to maintain the being pregnant, in the event that they suspect otherwise then they have the call of abortion. i do no longer understand what i might do if I have been given pregnant now, i think of it would matter on the circumstances of thought (rape, stable relationship, one night stand) and additionally how far alongside i grow to be, yet i'm grateful that I truly have the suited suited to compliment in an increasingly greater Nanny State society that tries to dictate our lives.

Answer 11

she has total control of your future and there's nothing you can do about it. Are you sure the baby is yours? Get a blood test after it's born and do a lot of praying until then.
Good luck