Well I like a guy but my mom doesn't agree that he's safe what do I do??
2006-12-28 12:42:48 · 20 answers · asked by Kayla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know this prolly won't get me a best answer but first of all how old are you? Do you still live with your mom? The way I look at it is if you're not 18 or if you still live in your mom's house she does have some say in who you see... especially if you are under 18. If he is really a good guy, your best bet is to try to get her to get to know him and give him a chance to prove himself. If she will, the rest is up to him.
2006-12-28 12:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by rudee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your Mom doesn't think he's "safe" that is more of a concern than her simply not liking him. Consider what it is about him that makes her feel he's "unsafe". Will he endanger you in any way? physially? emotionally? I don't know if it's his driving, behavior, or what that makes your Mom feel he isn't 'safe', but obviously she has YOU as her top priority and concern in the situation. She's been more places and seen more things, and even if it does seem right now as if she's simply "out to get you" and "just doesn't want you to be happy", I promise if she cares enough to tell you Not to be with someone she feels is unsafe, she has your best interests at heart. I know it's hard, but just try to take a step back, distance yourself from the situation in any way, and see what you see. It may open your eyes. If nothing else, proceed with caution..just be aware. No need to rush the relationship. I hope it all works out.
2006-12-28 13:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by pursuit_of_happyness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is truth to the saying 'mother know best'.... there is a reason she dislikes this guy that she can see because of her life experience. Realize this. Be his friend at school but not on a real personal level. Be thankful that your mom is cool enough to care about you. Some kids have parents who don't look out for them this way and when they begin making their own decisions (without a lot of life experience like a caring parent) trouble can be just around the corner... Remember, every decision that you make in your life... and especially in your teen and early adult years... will direct you in the course of the life you will make for yourself. Make wise decisions as every decision has a consequence, be it good or bad. Don't be upset with Mom. Be thankful she loves you.
2006-12-28 12:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Safe huh? Listen here and now if hes polite it should be easy and common sence shows that you shouldnt say anything negative about him. but thats not probaly the case
you gotta keep convincing like "hes really nice, and he just wants to take me out to eat then were gonna just take a walk thats it"
SHOW THAT HE IS SAFE- He doenst smoke, do drugs, he polite and considerate, he cares about me. if not all of this applys then just forget about your whole convincing act. but if all this is true there you go. think this over. Maybe he should come over to the house for a dinner this is when parents judge once and for all the real truth.
or just invite him over in the mornin/afternoon/night whenever mom is home. just from her observation it shouldnt be to hard to get a change of opinion.
2006-12-28 12:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see him without your mom knowing and if he calls your house you always answer the phone NOT her. Tell your mom that it is over with you and the guy you like so she will be relieved. But you can still go out and see him just don't let your mom know.
2006-12-28 12:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know im a guy but im gonna try, if ur mother doesn't approve its not the end of the world, u could have them talk and maybe find something they are both interested in and maybe they will connect it may help if they get to know eachother more because she might just be judging on the looks of him and not on who he is.
2006-12-28 12:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by donte584 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was so over protective when I was young that I don't value her opinion anymore. So I guess I would not care what she thinks about a guy I liked.
2006-12-28 12:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha. seriously trust her! I mean you give the guy a chance, feel him out and stuff but don't take it too far. Mothers are "Otherworldy Creatures" you have to realize they really do seem to have supernatural powers. If she has a bad hunch about him, respect it! still remember that your opinion is just as important though.
Good luck with this.
2006-12-28 12:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Austin D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats what happened me girl and guess what im left on my own with two children because i always listened to what mommy said sumtimes u just have to follow ur heart not ur mothers advice i know sumtimes they are right but no man is gud enough for a mothers daughter follow your heart
2006-12-28 12:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by 4leaveclover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom always want the best for you. Mom knows best.
mom is not happy = no one is happy
having boyfriend = you happy
Happiness of having boyfriend = mom is not happy, no one is happy
Be happy = keep mom happy
Is this making sense?
2006-12-28 13:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋