my boyfriend and father to our daughter just ask me if when he gots our (8 months) if i still wanted to get married, it was all to much for me right then all i could say is we need to talk about it
what should i stay the next time we talk?
would you do it ?
2006-12-28 12:33:08 · 16 answers · asked by jlw78418 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ummm....wow....he sounds like a winner so be sure to hold on to him.
2006-12-28 13:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not say yes because he is hoping to get out in eight months. Then what is he going to do as far as employment? You should really consider the facts on how hard it is for a person that has been in jail for a period of time to get a job. What is he in there for? I married one right after he got out and I have regret every moment of it. Remember, he will probably need an address to stay when he gets out. Is that why he is asking you to marry him? And why Now out of all the other chances he has had? Really think about it...
2006-12-28 20:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would all depend on why he is an inmate. I would recommend you staying on your own with your child when he gets out and start dating again and seeing if he is a changed man. This may take awhile. I would have a talk to him about his lifestyle and how he needs to change his life around. Tell him you need to see it with actions not words.
2006-12-29 01:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends do you love him? In my opinion, I'd let him have his relationship with his daugher cause its his right, but really do you want to have a relationship with a convict? Is he really going to change in the long run, no matter how much you stick by him? Its your happiness you need to think about. It will be better for you daughter as well, if your happy than she's happy.
2006-12-28 20:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jenns705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. The one question you need to ask yourself is "do you love him?" If the answer is yes then of course get married. Just because he is locked up shouldn't deter you from marrying him unless its a habit for him to keep going back. If the answer is "no" then maybe you should reconsider.
2006-12-28 20:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jesse's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person is in jail they say alot of things that they don't mean including going to god. When they get out its a different story. They see new things and other people. Their not locked up anymore and hormones a racing. Pick your choice. I'll wait to see how he reacts when he gets home.
2006-12-28 20:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by gettysdeemer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? That is the key question.
my personal experience........i married a man just 22 days ago. he's in jail. and i love him totally and truly with every part of my soul. I will stick by his side through anything and everything. He didn't do what they 'say' he did. they have no evidence. but because his history has 'things' in it.....they wanna assume he's still that bad person.
follow your heart. and remember that you have a child with this man.
2006-12-28 20:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by girlmaria84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a lot to consider .. 1# why did he go to jail..was it some minor..and will he do it again
2#do you love him...
what i would if you love him and don't want to let him go is tell him you would like to date him for a while just to make sure your still compatible with him.. that should not take to long to decided that one.. and then talk marriage with him.. tell him you will just need some time that .. that is a big step for you.. if you are waiting for him to get out.. assure him that you are still waiting for him .. but that you just would like to make sure that both of you have not changed to much.. prison dose things to people and does change them some times for the better and sometimes for the worst
2006-12-28 21:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!!! Why would you, not only put yourself in that situation, but your daughter. If you marry a loser who is going to do things that get him put into jail, then what is she going to grow up thinking is okay? For real...you really should move on. I would tell him that he lost his chance and that if he were in any kind of position to comfortable take care of you and your daughter he wouldn't be in jail to begin with.
2006-12-28 20:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ofie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
apparently you are not ready to married him,tell him the truth before he come home,that way he will have time to adjust.
2006-12-28 20:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont speak jive, what did you attempt to say
2006-12-29 01:03:13 · answer #11 · answered by Georgia girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋