How Do You Fall Out Of Love?

Question

I have this undying love for a woman. I would do almost anything for her.
Unfortunatly she doesn't feel the same and will only be friends now.
I want her friendship, but I want to stop obbsessing about her.
She's like an addiction.
How do I balance my emotions I feel for her and still be a good friend?

Answer 1

I don't think you ever really fall out of love. The love you have just changes into something else, into friendship or hate. Maybe try finding someone else to be with, date or go hang out with friends and try to get her out of your mind. Once you totally believe that its over then you might resign to being just friends. Having her in your life as a friend would be better than not having her at all.

Answer 2

Sometimes it is impossible to do at first most people need a small break and then can go on and be friends with an ex. If I was in your shoes I would tell her that you understand that she doesn't feel the same way you do and that you are cool with that but at this time you can't just be friends with her. Trying to be just "friends" with someone your totally in love with is really hard and you should accept the fact your not together and you probably will never be again before you can be a good friend to her.

Good Luck Happy New Year's

Answer 3

Almost the same thing happen to me once. Are you sure its love and not just an obssesion? Now that i look back....I don't really think it was true love more like an obsession. It took me about two years to get over this person......but I've move on and found better people to be in a relationship with. I don't think you can be friends with her right now. Maybe you should distance yourself try not to see her either b/c that might confuse you also since you feel like you have strong feelings for her. Have confidence that you can find someone who loves you as much as you love them and be happy. Good Luck!

Answer 4

No you don't. You TRANSFER that same love to a new person.
You have a need to love, it is the way your heart works.
You are focused on this woman because there is no one else for you to think about.
If you find a new woman to spend time with your love will transfer over to her and you will no longer think about the present woman.
To love someone is a need you have. You may not believe it, but there are plenty of other people you can love as much, and the loveyou now have will just switch to the new person.

Answer 5

Make yourself busy. You have a broken heart, and the only way to heal is to give it time. Fill the days and hours with as much activity as you can. And you can't be friends with her. That would just slow down the recovery. You have the right frame of mind when you say, "She's like an addiction." Recovering from her is very similar to recovering from an addiction. You have to stay away from her.

Answer 6

I think it might be easier if you weren't trying to be her friend. Being around her and seeing her and thinking about her is not getting you the result you want. If you weren't trying to be friends, you could move on with your life, meet other women and men friends, and when thoughts of her arose, you could mentally put them in a separate room and close the door. There won't be room in your life for a woman who loves you and wants to be with you as long as you are hanging around the woman who doesn't love you. Also, I think it would be a good idea to ask yourself why you are so obsessed about someone who is not interested in you. Perhaps a counselor could help.

Answer 7

i want to be honest. i think your guy friends will agree with me on this one. i know from experience. the quickest way to get over someone is to be with other members of the opposite sex. whether you:
1) go dancing/to a bar
2) go to a strip club
3) meet other women--don't stop till u find someone who sparks an interest
4) meet more women who spark your interest

you will see that the more options you have and the more potential you see in other women, this one you're stuck on will start to matter less and less....until you get to a point where she doesn't drive you mad anymore. then you will have power over yourself back and can relate to her as you would any woman or friend.

good luck!! it won't happen overnight (your guy friends might think it can) but you will feel so much better after you do this, i hope. it works for me. good luck

Answer 8

Trying to be just friends with someone that you have such a huge amount of feelings for is not going to work out.
Been there, done that, crashed and burned.

Cut the ties - it sucks but it's the best way!

Answer 9

you really can't just fall out of love..LOVE is one of the most powerful things in the universe...
if you really love her, and she is really you friend, then this is what I suggest to you, ask her out to a fairly nice place to eat and make sure your table is in a quiet corner, then tell her no matter what is said here today promise me we still can be friends, then continue and tell her that your feeling have grown from just friends to much much more, and talk it out ( be prepared for anything she may say) do not get upset, mad or hurt by what may be said...and also be prepared for he to at the outside chance she says she has feelings too...be prepared..
this is the logical way to handle it...
the other way is to STOP seeing her all together, but I do not recommend this, it WILL cause pain in you and her...
so please do what I suggest you do, and no matter how it ends up..it all needs to be talked out...

good luck
smile
and
God Bless

Answer 10

I think that it will take putting space between you and this woman until some of your feelings lessen. It will get easier and eventually you will be able to move on. Once you are in this place, you will possibly be able to work on your friendship with this woman. Good luck!