This gal has been blatant in the past. Just over the top. I even gave her "the cure" that usually stops it. The cure = I told her I'm gay. She doesn't care or seem to get it. How can I get her to stop touching me when she passes and making little sexy giggly jokes in front of others?
I'm very sick right now and she wants to come to my house. How in the world do I turn this woman off??????????
2006-12-28 12:00:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be as blatant with her as she has been with you; tell her you have tried to be nice about it as you didn't want to hurt her feelings, but she hasn't taken the hint so you leave her no choice but to spell it out for her: You are not physically attracted to her, you don't want to go out with her, you don't want her to touch you ever again and if she does, it leaves you no choice but to report her for sexual harrassment. If she has your home phone, e-mail, IM put blocks for her number/name/address on all of them.
If you can't bring yourself to do this, then go your boss and tell the boss what is happening and say that you would like it handled informally, meaning not a formal write up for her, just that you want her to stop. Your boss will have to take your complaint seriously and address the issue with her.
2006-12-28 12:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at that point, if she is touching you, then you should tell your boss that she's making you umcomfortable... you don't have to use the language "sexual harrassment," unless you're comfortable... even if she's just annoying in the work place, that hinders your job preformance and should be taken to your Human Resources dept.
If she then keeps trying to contact you outside of work, get a restraining order... being stalked is scary.
2006-12-28 12:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tiff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go to your boss and say you're being sexually harassed. Seriously, what she's doing is very wrong and you need to report her as soon as possible. Don't even tell her you're going to do it.
2006-12-28 12:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're not interested and to leave you alone and that if she doesn't leave you alone you are going to report her for sexual harassment. Then follow through with that if she doesn't stop.
2006-12-28 12:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, this may sound a little weird, but do the opposite of what you have been doing. Tell her you want/need/love her, tell her she is the only one for you, and that your world revolves around her. Give her flowers, and chocolates, and really try to gush her up. I bet she will run away, thinking your a huge wuss.
2006-12-28 12:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her. Even be a bit nasty to her if you want. Just don't give her what she wants.
I've had this before. They go away eventually.
2006-12-28 12:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Yanni Depp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look just tell her to stop and if she doesn't stop that u will report her for sexual harrassment. That should work. Good luck.
2006-12-28 12:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by bambii_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like her. Try to avoid her. This may not work tho.
2006-12-28 12:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by chickswim77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about reporting her to Human Resources?
2006-12-28 12:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you're sorry but she don't have the right "equipment", you can be friends but she has to respect your wishes. Good luck and hope you feel better.
2006-12-28 12:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by barefootmodel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋