How do we find ourselves when we lose others?

Answer 1

We find ourselves when we lose others because we realize, perhaps the hardest lesson of all, that life goes on. Many times when a loved one is lost we want our world to end, as if they were the center of our universe, but the truth is that for each human, they are the centers of their own universes. They may love, devote their entire lives, and lose all that they see, but it is their own soul, their core, that while united with those whom they love, is separate and it alone is under your control in the world.

This doesn't mean that relationships are pointless nor does it mean that your life isn't meant to be devoted to others... On the contrary, what is the sun without the planets or God without men.. it just means that with one angel led astray God still has more angels that love him, with Pluto gone (no longer a planet,,, he-he) the Sun's purpose is still alive, and perhaps maybe more defined (perhaps not).. Though one friend or more may become lost, your purpose is not. That may not be something to find, but the struggle most go through when dealing with that usually helps each person better understand themselves and the world around them, which is how I suppose we do really find ourselves when we lose a loved one.

Answer 2

The answer is simple, we figure out who we want to be by carefully examining our spirit and our personality. We have to figure out what we don't like about ourselves or what others don't like about us because other people are our witnesses for when God examines us plus they are on the outside looking in. When we lose ourself, it's the most easiest to find ourselves by looking back on the life we've lived from childhood on up to now. What have your learned throughout those years? Who taught us what we know now? Where do we want to go from here?
Examine yourself with all of the above and you'll find out who and what you really are.

Answer 3

This is something that I don't think anyone can answer for you, this is one of those things that you have to find within yourself. For you to be asking this it sounds like something has happen to you that I am sure you don't want to talk about, but if there is someone that you feel you can talk to it may be a good idea. No-one, NOONE should feel alone and lost i think the best thing to do would be to fine that someone and talk to them let it all out. you may find you will feel alot better after it. if you cant talk to someone I find that writing your feeling and thoughts out on paper work really well - but don't leave them around, you never know who will find them so make sure you burn them after just to be on the safe side. I really hope that you find what it is that your looking for and feel better soon - remember its going to be ok in the end ... when I cant say but it will be ok in the end. xox

Answer 4

I believe its the other way around. I believe when we find ourselfs we gain others. When someone dies you become more connected to that person then you ever where when they were alive in a sense. And you realize your own mortality when it happens and can learn from the experience and why there is sooo much to be thankful for in life and how its all about making the world better for our children.

Answer 5

When we lose a person we find out what it was that person provided us. We are better able to recognize it because of its absence, and since we have to start providing it ourselves, or find an alternative.