subconsciously you begin to see and treat them in the same manner? Even when it's a person whom you care about?
2006-12-28 11:57:58 · 15 answers · asked by 22sa 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Entirely possible it depends on who you hear the comment from. For example if its someone you admire and trust than yeah I believe you might subconsciously change your view of that person who was spoken about. Reality is in the eye of the beholder love so try not to let other's opinions and views affect your own.
2006-12-28 12:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can happen sure. I have few family members who would "gossip" about another family member and though it was uneasy for me to just sit there with them, but all I could do was be patient and listen. After they finished "gossiping," I had gone straight to bed. The thing is, the person my family was gossiping about were all true and so I didn't feel sorry or anything about this person.
2006-12-28 12:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bobcat9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that happening.
The way I would handle this situation would be:
List all the good things you like about this person and work with that instead of the negative things that other people are saying.
2006-12-28 12:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by ICSFoster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course if it is subconscious you wouldn't be aware of it but if you develop a habit of asking yourself "who said that" whenever you catch yourself thinking such things about people, you might realize it was a conditioned reflex of the subconscious nature.
2006-12-28 12:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad but true. We are only human. If possible, ask the person about it to clear your mind about it. This way you can give them the benefit of the doubtl
2006-12-28 12:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by a_911girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had listened to some of those negative comments...they ended up being true. Sometimes, you just don't know if it's gossip, jealousy, or truth.
2006-12-28 12:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does no longer be incorrect of you to maintain her from seeing yoru toddler for a on an identical time as, yet much extra helpful, furnish to convey her over and stay interior the room for a on an identical time as and then bypass away with your toddler. (supervised visitation). this might do away along with her speaking approximately you, and she or he would be waiting to nevertheless see her grandmother. additionally, it will make her ask the question. whilst she does, tell the undeniable fact which you do no longer desire her speaking negatively approximately you on your toddler and which you're observing her foodstuff regimen heavily so as that she does not get too many goodies. you're able to desire to certainly have an extremely candid talk with your destiny MIL. tell her which you may want to have a large relationship along with her considering the fact which you ought to be married to her son continuously. tell her which you like him and if it have been you, you would be chuffed that your son got here across somebody who loves him plenty. inform you that when she is able to be a loving significant other's mom, you would be there. tell which you like her and which you're chuffed she is going to be a factor of your loved ones despite if she did no longer settle for you as component of hers. I did this, and it labored like a dream. I additionally threw interior the "How undesirable might desire to i in my opinion be? Your son, the comparable son which you like so dearly, chosen me. How undesirable might desire to i in my opinion be? He of course loves me.
2016-11-24 21:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is some truth to that. A lot depends on your morals as well. For me, I don't listen to negative rhetoric. I detest it. I just walk away.
2006-12-28 12:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your own mind and can form your own opinions about people if you took the time to know the person.
2006-12-28 12:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are susceptible to acting literaly upon what they hear, just like you said. i hate that and its making my work life hard because i told an employee who i thought wouldn't run her mouth a few personal things about myself and now everyone and their brother knows about it and treats me like subhuman scum because they're all goody2shoes *****.
so yea its entirely possible, but know that, and know its wrong to do stuff like that without thinking over what *really* happened and not someone who knows someones friend of a friends sister in laws cousin's word on what someone said or is like.
i hate gossip and rumors and people who listen to them and pass them on and act on them like a religion.
2006-12-28 12:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋