how can i get over someone that i have been off/on for 2years. we both admit that we still love each other. we broke up almost everytime because he has a flirting problem (so he says) i believed if he really loved me he would stop flirting. and this is the problem we are not together but everytime he sees me near a boy he gets all jelous. and one he asked a boy could he take me out of his presence. (hes not abusive. trust me i beat him up so many times lol) but i love him. what should i do! should we talk and try to work it out or should we just............... HELP
2006-12-28 11:51:07 · 16 answers · asked by ♥la chica♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
try to break off all means of communication first. I got over the guy i love so much by breaking all means of communication for about a yr before starting to communicate back with him.. but as a FRIEND this time round.
Time heals all wounds. So perhaps you should try it. Though it hurts to leave someone you love and moreover for such a long period of time, you will still have to learn to pick up yourself.
Find a guy who treats you better than him. =)
2006-12-28 13:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by fishy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go either way on this one. He doesn't beat you, so it's not all bad to try to work it out if you really care about each other. Or, you just have to cut your losses and move on...there's no magic...it's going to take time, and hurt like hell. But, you have to tell yourself that's what it takes to get to a future where you can be with someone that really respects your feelings.
If you do try to work it out, don't let him abuse the whole "problem" angle. If it's really a problem he can't control, and he cares about you, he needs to be trying to get some help. Saying you have a problem, but not doing anything about it...is just making excuses for yourself.
2006-12-28 11:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is lack of trust, without trust you have a faile relationship, So to get over it, Stay busy, Really busy, Someonn else that appreciates you will come along. As far as guys go, once a pig always a pig!
2006-12-28 11:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by Brian Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same exact situation as you and i think about him ALOT but you kknow what over time you will just see yourself chang and sstop thinking about them. There are more guys out there and i have convinced my self that i can get over him. You know he is not worth your tears so live life!. He is having fun (flirting) so should you !!!!
2006-12-28 11:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by hey! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, if he loved you enough, he would control his flirting. It might not be easy, but you should move on. Word of warning though, if you are truly in love with him, then you'll probably never get over him. He'll always be in your heart, you just have to learn to live without him.
2006-12-28 12:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse you should talk
you love each other
and im tellin u when u break up ur live is gonna be sooooooo miserable ur gonna hate urself for doin it
ull live ur live in regret
y go through all tht when u hv the chance to talk
2006-12-28 11:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Sorry, it sucks I know but honestly you never do if you truly loved him...They say it takes time to heal your wounds...but all wounds leave scars. Give it time..one day he will become a distant memory:)Someone you remember once in awhile.
2006-12-28 13:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time. Give it 4 months and you will be over him/her.
2006-12-28 11:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eugene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that life goes on, and that sometimes it sends you things that you have to deal with that are not pleasant - but it will make you a better person.
2006-12-28 11:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself occupied...such as hanging out with friends and having fun. You know, social activities. Things you can do with your friends that you couldn't do when you were occupied with your lover.
2006-12-28 11:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋