My partner and i have recently had an argument, he blames it all on me and whenever i tell him what he's done to annoy me he turns it round so it's my fault. Why?
2006-12-28 11:40:10 · 21 answers · asked by lascott1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its purely down to the fact that men are intellectually and mentally superior to women in every way, always have been, always will. The sooner you girlies with your feeble little brains understand this the better it'll be for everyone - now run along and iron a shirt or something.
2006-12-28 11:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works both sides sweetie, You're convinced he's in the wrong, he's convinced you're in the wrong. The trouble is when a couple have a falling out & voices are raised things start to be said that shouldn't...this in turn gets each others back up & the voice of reason goes out of the window. It's only natural then that you both are on the defensive.
You need to both sit down & have a chat...arrange a time for this when it's convenient for you both & agree before hand that each will say whats troubling them but the other isn't allowed to speak til that ones stopped. Don't make accusations & don't use words like "always" or "never" be specific about whats bothering you & keep calm...also agree beforehand that neither must butt in so as to act defensive.
It's only when you both stay calm that you can both begin to get an understanding of what the other is feeling...often when things are calm then disputes are settled quite easily.
2006-12-29 02:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times a person will think that if s/he's wrong in a situation, then s/he must be wrong as a person. This may be the result of having grown up in an atmosphere where it wasn't safe to make mistakes.
Unfortunately, this lack of safety dogs us into subsequent relationships, and the only way to fix it is to change ourselves.
This is not to say that it IS your fault---only that you can't change anyone but yourself, and as you change, others around you will react differently.
Think on this:
How do you react when he's done something that annoys you? Do you give him space to make mistakes? Do you feel unheard/unloved when he does those annoying things? Do you communicate that?
There are other ways to create a sense of safety in a relationship, and I think you would find it rewarding if you sought to do that.
Again, I don't believe everything's your fault. No one is wrong all the time. But if you want to effect change, you must begin with yourself
2006-12-28 20:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by abbynormal92243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the same situation and sadly I've found it's b/c he's hiding something. You need to replay that argument in your head and try to talk w/him about it w/out accusing him of anything. A discussion should never start w/pointing fingers, at him or yourself.
It's hard to give a great answer b/c we don't know what the argument was about or what your relationship is like. Good luck
2006-12-28 20:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by baconbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos he can't admit it, 2 big-headed. If u want him to take some of the blame, say that it was all your fault, then start crying. Men can't stand crying and will do anything to make it stop, so then he will say yeah, its not all your fault. The end.
2007-01-01 12:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by taxi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's true at all. I think that it's us women who think we can never do anything wrong. I think that men just don't drag things out or continue to bring up things. We continue to beat things to death. Besides, why are you telling him what he's doing to annoy you? Does he ever tell you what you do to annoy him? Probably not!!! He probably just lets it go, unless it's something really terrible or unless it has just gone too far. I think in general men are wonderful...it's women who give them a bad reputation for things like this.
2006-12-28 19:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by zimmiesgrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost certainly the same reason why women think it is Ok to get b1tchy and slag off their men but get their t1ts in a tangle if we do it back.
Any man who won't admit that he is wrong is not a man but a little boy who thinks he is a man.
I know that's right so no f*c*i*g argument or I'll slap your stupid ears off.
2006-12-28 20:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is simple men are born with an inferiority complex and therefore they are all pigs. Tell him to get a clue and quit putting all the blame on you. Good luck and God Bless. Claire
2006-12-28 20:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Claire 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what! you are going to leave because he is a jerk? i thought you ladies liked jerks? i thought moto was NO to nice guys; YES to jerks.
action plan: you stay and pay the price for loving a jerk or you transfer to another jerk.
you ladies must learn that know body is perfect. we all have warts baby!
2006-12-28 20:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by rumuodani 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you both are worried only about yourselves and what the other is doing wrong, change places with each other.
2006-12-28 19:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋