Why am I quick to judge people?

Question

When I see someone stare at me I feel like they don't like me and If I hear a word about me I feel like someone is talking about me, I am to quick to judge people and I don't like people looking at me when I am walking in the mall or other places. I keep a lot of things to myself though I do not get angry about it but worry. I think I care to much of what other people think about me or say.

Answer 1

Maybe you're a little insecure.
Just find yourself and know who and what you really are.
If people talk about you or stare at you, psh...it's only cuz ur hott or they're jealous! so come on, don't worry...trust some other people and don't keep things to yourself. Ask God to help you.
Just talk to him like you'd talk to anyone else. He'll help you and he'll listen.He's only got good things to say about you and to you.
p.s/ I'm here if you need me.

Answer 2

Wow! That sounds like me....a few years ago! You are not judging, really. You are probably depressed which can cause you to be really REALLY uneasy and sometimes a little paranoid. I used to think people laughing in a room must have been laughing at my hair, my clothes, my nose, what I said, or whatever. Found out that someone had just told a funny joke!

It took me a couple years of therapy to get through it, but in a nutshell....Look at what you really like about yourself (there IS something!) and keep your focus on those things! You will never be liked by everyone, trust me, but you CAN be liked by yourself.

Furthermore, I have a motto: God don't make junk....you must have something very valuable about yourself. Find it!

Best wishes

Answer 3

I spent many years worrying about what everyone thought of me. I'm disabled and so I was teased pretty bad in school and it kind of gave me this "paranoia" attitude. I thought every snicker or laugh was about me. So I do understand.

The staring? Well the wheelchair elicits a lot of stares so I tend to ignore those. But I just finally decided that I liked who I was, what I stood for (pun intended...ha ha) and how I looked. My basic philosophy now is "if you don't like who I am I don't need you"

In the end the only opinion that matters is yours.

Good Luck and Happy New Year!

Answer 4

hey, dont worry me too. I guess its just; Sometimes insecurity, sometimes ignorance, Imperfection, and maybe Simply because they are ignorant and they do not take the time necessary to learn about different people and cultures.

It may be hard for you to accept, but people would rather hear a lie than the truth, the reasoning is the truth hurts worse than a lie. People would rather see you fail than succeed, their reasoning behind this is jealousy and fear, people are are always jealous and fearful that someone may get one step above them, or become more successful than they, they can deny it, like they would any subconcious addiction or illness, but sub-conciously they cannot deny it, such is the instinctive cancer of our primitive brains.

Thus is the basis of their judgement, a feeble attempt to vindicate themselves to make themselves feel superior to another, ignoring their own iniquities at the benefit of watching another suffer or causing them discomfort or pain. We are all susceptible to this psychological disease, it leads to all points negative, and it can and has stem'ed into racist views, and worse case scenario violence.

Humans love to watch eachother suffer, so long as the victim is not one of their own, just turn on the TV and see the suffering for yourself, take a peak into the window of the human soul, this disease is rampent through all society's and none are immune to it's influence. It is our babaric instincts that rule our instinctive thought patterns and that which influences our decisive judgements of what we believe to be righteous.

No matter what good deeds you do for your fellow man, they will eventually hate you for it, because it impede's and belittles them as being weak and inferior. They will always judge you, and point their accusing fingers. Just remember, to question the three fingers pointing back at their own iniquities.

Hope that helps. Merry Christmas

Answer 5

i'm quick to guage yet not with the help of seems a lot- with the help of ways they act- I make HARSH statements about human beings... that's extremely unhappy actual, a million. Dude in a sweater making a humorous face( i don't think of he's gary) 2. destiny criminals(not all; the single on the right who seems recommend, the youngsters are fantastic they are basically goofing) 3. desires interest emo female... probably cuts herself 4. Chip in Dales for gay adult males

Answer 6

Learn to know people first before judging them. If you don't like what you are on this aspect,you can change. You cannot avoid people looking at you.Usually they have a reason to look, They happen to meet you,you dress different from their standard of dressing,etc.I like to think they look at you because you're the prettiest in the mall.

Answer 7

You are not the center of the universe and doubt if people are really starring at you all that much mabe the guys but not strangers,,,,,Try to relax and usually first impression are correct but this is after meeting and talking with someone,

Answer 8

don't worry about it. that's how everyone is weather they'll admit it or not. i mean when you people, see a girl walking in a mall with a really short short mini skirt...sure people is going to think she is a whore. (but they not realize maybe that's all the clothes she have is like that)

or when you see someones fat. We always assume they always eat alot. (they might be born with something wrong with them)

or when you see everyone staring at you...well sure everyone thinks they're talking bad about you. (when who knows they might be talking about you in a nice way)

now you see where I'm coming from??? all I'm saying is its normal. but try to relaxed about it. don't always think negative.

Answer 9

That is kinda normal, but don't let it keep you from making friends, maybe the people are not really talking about you at all.try joining and getting to know people, being alone is not good, for young or old....

Answer 10

Yes, that's paranoia. Think of why or when you started feleing this way. Something must trigger these defensive feelings for no reason. Or, if you can't figure it out, see a therapist.