If my family tells me to turn left, and my huband tells me to turn right?

Question

who should I listen to?

Answer 1

You're husband because he IS your family. When it all comes down to it who is there for you every day, and who knows you better then anyone. Who is the one that you chose to be in your life?
Your family may have been there for you in the past but your husband is there for you right now and for the future.

Answer 2

I'm sure your heart has the answer. You're afraid to listen to it.
Calm down, relax, ask God in the dark of your room, after you meditate and pray a little and the answer will come.
You should follow your husband UNLESS he is an abusive one. Families are nice, but it is in the Bible that once we get married, we should leave them and follow our husbands. However, you are a person as well and your opinion should always be considered. It is a two-way road, understand? The husband respects the wife AND the wife loves him back and vice-versa, it is like a circle. The more you give, the more you get. If your husband gives you respect and honours you, do listen to him as much as your family may get hurt. But this is a decision that only you can make. You don't give us details, so it is hard to tell you what to do. Good luck.

Answer 3

If it's an important matter to you, but less important to the others, you should accept both suggestions as options and decide for yourself which would be best.

If it's something that effects you and your husband equally you should definatly give his opinion weight in your decision making, or make the decision WITH him, meaning discuss what you think about it and listen to why he has choosen what he has, then discuss where your comprimise might be.

If it's something that effects your family, but not your husband, then you should give your family's opinion more weight, and copy/paste the above replacing spouse with family.

Not every decision can be made in the same matter. Say you're thinking about quitting your job to stay home, this would affect you, obviously, and your husband by putting pressure on him to be the sole breadwinner of the house hold. He should be included in the decision, and what you family thinks is not entirely important. If you're thinking about becoming pregnant, or waiting for children, then again, that effects you and your husband specifically. If you're planning a family reunioun, then you'd include your family's opinions, possibly more than your husbands. It all depends, but ultimately it's your life and you're making the decisions for it. Weigh and consider the outcomes of each possiblity and choose wisely for yourself.

Answer 4

Don't do either. Go straight. Try listening to yourself for a change. Take both opinions under advisement and then do what YOU feel best. If you're old enough to be married, it's time you became your own person.

Answer 5

Have a talk with your husband and family and tell them let you choose what direcytion you would like to go in listen to yourself where do you think you should go??
JJ

Answer 6

this is where you should listen to your own instint really.

if your partents or family tells you one thing your husband is telling you something else then you need to ask yourself what way feels right. because either way you go one is going to be upset.
it happens i feel like i am going to disapoint someone no matter what way i go so i just go my own way.

Answer 7

To yourself. Make your own decisions. How about going down the straight path?

Answer 8

do what you think you should do. "family is going to be there "forever" and the divorce rate is up and all". that is all bs. you do what is going to make you happy. if listening to your family makes you happy then do that. your husband, do that.

Answer 9

Depends on the issue.

Answer 10

Hubby.