and I have nothing. I mean we have been friends since high school, and she is rich, well she married into some wealth at least. She lives in this huge asss house in a new neighborhood and drives a brand new lexus gx470, which is expensive. Her kids wear name brand anything, and my kids get jealous and wonder why they cant wear tommy or quiksilver like her kids do.
I live in a crappy run down townhouse that is rented and not owned, I want to live her life cause it seems great. She doesnt work and is a stay home mom and in her spare time she either shops, buys toys for her kids or just hangs out at home, I love her house, it even has a spa in it!
How can I get a life like hers, my kids want what her kids have, like a trampoline, go carts, and video games, my kids usually go to her house to enjoy the nicer things in life.
My home is already filled with love, but I want a taste of the other side!
What should I do?
2006-12-28 11:25:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Grow up and stop being jealous of your friend.You may have nothing but love and she may have everything but love.Material things are not important and you need to realize this quickly because you are not setting a good example for your kids to follow.You need to let them know that what you have is not as important as who you are and what makes you happy should not be what other people have it should be what you have. Good Luck in trying to teach your kids to have morals when their mother doesn't sound like she has them.
2006-12-28 11:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Oh dear listen don't pay so much attention to what you think you see. Understand that your friend maynot be as lucky as you think she is. Have you ever given the thought to the house, cars, clothes the kids wear and other things may be nothing but a house filled with pain!
A lot of women who act like oh their lives are so filled with glamour but when it boils down they are unhappy and simply sad inside.
You are very lucky to have what you have just think if you didn't have a townhouse and had to live in a box on side the street with your kids. Didn't have a car so you and the kids had to walk everywhere you went. Didn't have any clothes and the only means of that was digging through the trash cans or dumpters.
Sweetheart your life isn't bad at all actually your one of the lucky ones.
Bless your soul, be thankful that right this very moment you've got a roof over your head and for your children.Be thankful hun look around there is always someone wanting more and more, but not taking the time to be thankful for what they have right now!
And listen you wanted to know how you could get a taste of the other side? Let me tell you dear hard work, more hard work and more hard work. Things like this doesn't come easy, but let me tell you one thing if a person works hard then nothing is impossible and everything is possible!!
I suggest that you take that good hard look around you right now and say" Lord thank you for what I do have there are some that don't have NOTHING!"
ps
There are places to find the kids those same name brand clothes that your friends children wear.. the Goodwill hun some of the items are new too! And if your not into that then check Ebay out!! Hun you can get tons of things there name brand cheap. Your not looking in the right places nor thinking hun, your just to busy being crammed into your friends life to even know where to begin.
2006-12-28 12:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you lay in bed each night, thank the Lord for what you DO have. You have a home, rented or not, you have a place to lay your head. You have kids, as they get older they will learn they have all that they need. Teach them respect, teach them the value of the dollar, teach them that character is not based on what you have. You have the love of children, what more could you ask for? Kids will always want what the other kids have, that is just a part of life. Your friend's kids may want something that YOUR kids have! Life is too short to be jealous, start living it! Your friend may be unhappy underneath all that money, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. From what I have read, you are a very fortunate person, don't let life pass you by. I hope you find peace and contentment.
2006-12-28 12:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow shallow and materialistic...you need to teach your kids some VALUES AND MORALS of life and stop crying about what you don't have and be thankful you have a rundown rented townhouse. It could be worse.....I can rent you a one bedroom cardboard box hahaha!
Why would anyone think wearing name brand clothe can make them feel better?What is that???. Please tell you are are joking! Does name brand clothing pay your bills and put food in your mouth? Why do your kids even KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT NAME BRAND CLOTHE? how sad is that?
By the way, people don't SEEM to just have everything. Most of them work HARD or have worked hard for everything they have. I am sure your aware of this since I do believe you WORK to pay your rent?? right?.
Life is what you make of it, you want more then you'll have to just WORK HARDER! go back to school be a DOCTOR! they SEEM TO HAVE EVERYTHING right? hahaha Having everything doesn't make your life better...IT ONLY HELPS IT A TAD BIT and at the same time makes life more complicated. The harder you work the less time you have to spend with your family and friends and the less time you have to SPEND your hard earned cash....your life just seems to rush by you quicker when your working to live.
Ayyy yes I remember when Eve took that apple to Adam he too wanted a taste of the other side...or so to speak. Trust me the grass may look greener on the other side, but it rarely is!
2006-12-28 12:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are not always as happy as they seem. There may be quite a bit that she's not telling you. EIther way, you shouldn't covet someone else's life style. You live by the choices you make as does she.
If your kids don't understand that they can't have everything they want, it's ok. They'll learn eventually. Let them enjoy life. It's ok to have friends who have nice things and aspire to have goals for such a future.
If your home is truly filled with love, that's ALL that matters.
2006-12-28 11:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sit your dumb *** down and enjoy life. You said your kids are jealous. Are you sure you're not the main one that is jealous? You call your home crappy. Do something about it. Make it nicer. Get an education so you can make more money and live a better livestyle. Or just get another job. If you just want money to fly to you, then keep waiting.
2006-12-28 11:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be so selfish honestly. It is a sin to be envious of other people. There are far too many ppl in this world who have far less than you do. I dont understand why you arent satisfied with the things that you have got. And if your kids are saying that they want everything that your friends kids have, then you havent taught them morals, and what life is all about...or maybe they just heard you complaining because she gets to drive a new lexus and you dont......just stop this whining, it makes me sick.
2006-12-28 11:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Check her medicine closet and see how many prescriptions she is taking. Probably a lot and her kids may be on drugs too. More money = more depression/isolation because no one wants to see you inadvertantly flaunt your wealth = unhappiness = pill popping.
Teach your children the value of wanting what they have. If you need to change you relationship with this friend and set up some boundaries, mostly for yourself due to envy of her life, and limit contact or type of contact and same with your children.
2006-12-28 11:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by RoadRunner 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you stop being a petty little toad for one. Maybe the reason that you dont seem to have much is because you dont realize what you really do have. It may also be because you havent worked for and earned much of what you want.
As far as you friend, we dont know how she got what she has or how she snagged a well to do guy. Maybe she worked and accomplished and put herself in a place where she was much more likely to meet someone such as him.
Dont waste time being mad or upset. Earn your way, what you have, earn respect and self respect.
2006-12-28 11:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could be describing my life as you describe the life of your friend. Trust me, just because there are material things does not mean that her life is easy. Money simply brings a whole load of other problems- like who to trust, who is being a friend because they really like you and who is using you to get to your money? It also brings gold-diggers and home-wreckers chasing after your husband for his money. "Friends" and "Family" call that you haven't heard from in years to ask to borrow money. When you need to have work done, be it in your yard or on anything, greedy people see that you have money and they bid outrageous dishonest amounts in order to get their "slice" of your money. It is sickening. Be happy with your life. If it is filled with love, then you have the most valuable gift in the world. Teach your children the value of what is really important in life- relationships with friends and family and what is not- having the big house, having the nice car etc. Material things are simply that- material things. They are not important in the long run. Simplicity is important in the long run. What I wouldn't give to simply have one month that I didn't have to second guess who was being dishonest and who wasn't; that my husband didn't have to deal with some gold-digging whore just waiting in the sidelines to wreck our home and "get a piece of the action"; that my daughter didn't have to deal with some small minded child jealous simply because we were able to get her the bright pink shoes she wanted for Christmas. GET OVER IT!!! Money does not buy happiness. Get the green eyed monster under control and open your eyes to the big picture of life that the things that matter in life are not things!!!
2006-12-28 12:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋