Iam 24 and a mother of 1 he is 3. His dad walked out on me when I told him I was pregnant. I carried on with the pregnancy. I live in a nice home in a nice part of London and I am in a good job. I was also due to start university in the new year.
I have been seeing a really nice guy for the past few months. I have known him for 7 years we were friends before we were lovers. I had the coil in and he was using condoms. One time the condom split and now I am pregnant. He wants me and the baby so much but I am scared that I will be left alone again with the baby. My parents have already warned me that the support will not be there the second time around. His family has pledged support and he has told me that if abort the child it over between us as I took an abortion pill a couple years ago when we were seeing each other.
Some advice please!
2006-12-28 11:09:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
The past is the past. You obviously have a long term thing going with him and you banked on your past to help choose your new lover. Trust him. He is already a better man than the other babies dad- he wants to stay with you. Trust him and don't make him pay for the other man's mistake. It is wonderful to be in love and be excited about a baby- so get excited and share this with him. And how about getting married- maybe you could use that! Good luck!
2006-12-28 11:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Remember, it's your child, and your body, so ultimately the decision is up to you. Make sure he is really serious about supporting you. If you have known him for 7 years and were friends first then you should be able to trust him, but just make sure. Have a long, in-depth, meaningful, calm conversation with him to help decide what's best. But ask yourself this, "why would he say it would be over if you abort the child?" If it is because of his moral values then that's okay, understand that. But if you think he said that just because he can than reconsider your choices and your being with him. Talk to a counselor, this may be of a great help to you.
You sound like you could handle 2 children, so I'd say keep the child. You seem like a very positive and capapble person. Ultimately, it is your decision. You're not some horny teenager, you obviously know what's best for you, you're a mature adult, so, and I know this sounds sooooo unreasonably cliche, but look inside yourself and listen to your heart.
I wish you the best of luck! I hope this advice helps!! :)
2006-12-28 11:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have known this guy for seven years and you were friends before being lovers you should know him well enough to decide whether he will stick around or whether he will take off. Do you want another child? You say that you took an abortion pill before when you were with him. Why did you split up then and how did you get back together. You will know in your heart what it is that you should do and do not be pressurised by anybody else
2006-12-28 11:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by whittenberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow a man to rule your life it should be a joint decision and him putting pressure on you is unfair and if he loved you he would support you. However on the other hand you can not allow the past to rule your heart. I am starting university Sept 07 and i have two babies 1 who is nearly 3 and 1 who is 16 months and to tell you the truth if i fell pregnant again i would not keep the baby as i have worked so hard to get to uni. Ask yourself the question if you kept the baby would you end up resenting your partner?
2006-12-31 06:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I must say I just randomly came across this question and it came at a great time. This sounds exactly like my sisters situation the only difference is she is a year younger. I know this must me a very scary time for you and your family although sounds like they are being hard on you it's prob just so they don't have to see you with harder times ahead. I say you have this baby with or without him but you have to stay in school. It might take longer but I'll tell you now nothing is scarier than raising 2 children and not seeing the light of day financially. Get your education and from there you can have a piece of mind that you can do it on your own.
2006-12-28 11:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by fwalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is between you and him, really. I'm sorry that your last relationship was so depressing, but you have to get over this. You have to trust this relationship, especially if you are keeping the baby.
What about your son? All you've mentioned here is the relationship between you and guy #2. Is a good father to your current son? Is he going to adopt your son?
Are you ready for the baby? Don't use his idle threats as a reason to keep the baby if you aren't ready. If you aren't ready or would like another baby, think of adoption.
In all honesty you and this guy need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart. If you don't trust him now, you're never going to trust him.
2006-12-28 11:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't abort the unborn child. It is a wonderful gift from God you know. Parents say many things in anger that they do not really mean. You have known your friend for seven years and it sounds like he loves you very much. Trust in love because it will never let you down. God bless you.
2006-12-28 11:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Birdman 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you have answered your own fears with the whole him and his family thing either will support you. this guy seems not to want to run away and besides if he does he has a host of Grandparents Aunties and Uncles to run the Gauntlet with
2006-12-28 11:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby. Best of luck xx
2006-12-28 11:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~Grace~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋