I had developed a crush on a woman at work who started a month before me.She never knew how I felt until May of 06, when she asked me about dinner one night.I totally slipped up throwing all my cards on the table.I knew she was married, yet later learned that her marriage has been falling apart for 3 years.One night after weeks of talking regularly she expressed an interest.I had always dreamt of this moment and now it was reality! We're both going through rough relationships with ends in sight.We got closer, spending hrs on the phone, endless texting - but no sex. And I'm cool with that. We think it would be best to wait until she leaves him (her idea).That ROCKS. She left him.Since then I have met her family and spent Thanksgiving with them.We are falling in love.Then we became intimate.We talked about moving to better ourselves.I left the job and it hurt her.She feels abandoned.She is back with her abusive hubby.I'm told how miserable she is everyday. Should I walk away forever?
2006-12-28 11:07:38 · 15 answers · asked by mumra_06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should walk away ...
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2006-12-28 11:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There probably was something in your relationship that made her feel abandoned thus making her want to move back to a bad life. Women who has been abused has the tendecy to do this because their husbands has made them to believe they are worthless,and are nothing without them. If you still love her and care for her, talk things out with her and find ways how to make it right. You have to be strong for her and assuring her all the time because until she gets over her insecurities, she will always want to go back to the old life.It takes plenty of love,patience, and understanding to help a person get through a bad marriage. Good luck.
2006-12-28 19:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by tagara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you realize this chick may have been lying about an abusive relationship with her husband. You got caught up in an affair with a married woman dude!
Leave this woman alone! She's a cheater and will play you (or continue to) like a fool.
2006-12-28 19:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey darl, maybe if she truley is in an abusive releshonship she has become dependent on the abuse. That probably sounds silly but it can happen. As to leave or not only you can answer that one. Look inside yourself and her and if you can see hope there then go for it if not it may be time leave... Hope things work out for you.
2006-12-28 20:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by angelicrulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that sucks!!! :[ I don't know what else to tell you, buddy. But maybe you should get on with your life and look for other people to be involved with if they happen to come along. The woman may end up leaving her hubby but you never know. Let her know you won't wait for her forever, although you want to.
2006-12-28 19:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUH? You should have waited for her to be divorced or at least to have filed. But I think I am missing something. You leave a job she leaves you and goes back with her husband and SHE is the one who feels abandoned.
I think she is playing you.
2006-12-28 19:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your leaving the job made her go back to her abusive husband? (I don't think so) It would be best if you walk away unless she divorce him. When the divorce is final she will be free to love a new man. Until then she is still his wife.
2006-12-28 19:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't walk, you should RUN!! This chick is just using you as a shoulder to lean on. If she was serious she would not be back with that scumbag and she would be with you. This is too much drama, especially cuz she is still married. Run!!!
2006-12-28 19:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont walk away! that is so messed up! if you ever had feeling for her and told her that you did, then she probably thinks your a bonebag for leaving, thats harsh dude. you should go back to her, and never do anything so stupid again!
2006-12-28 19:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by jenna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she must love her abusive husband if she went back to him, I don't understand why she feels abandoned, I think you must have left out some very important information
2006-12-28 19:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so instead of coming to you she decided to go back to her hubby?
after everything that has transpired and all the plans that have been made?
walk away from that train wreck and don't look back
2006-12-28 19:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋