me and this person have a child togerther he left when she was 6 m got mirr to some one else never show r talk to his child now he back and what me to be with him.he act like he neve was gone. he mirr thas older wome and she was not very nice to my child or me. why he mirr her and not me how do i no that he is sorry and means it this time
2006-12-28 10:47:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A father like that is not what your daughter needs. He is unfortunately the father, and you can say no to her if she wants to know him. But you can say no. This is the type of man that is really just a boy. He ran from you and got married to someone else. Why because you were pregnant? That is a boy, a man takes care of his family.
Personally you can do a lot better and deserve a lot better. Tell him to take a hike. He has a lot of nerve to show up then act like it was nothing. It was something. You gave birth to his child.
2006-12-28 10:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by logan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is do you love him? His ex-wife (and I hope he had divorced her or this conversation takes a whole new road) is not in any way part of the issue. The fact that he left you alone with his child is. You need to work on your issues with him and make sure you are done with those first, then you need to answer the question, do you love him? If you still have unresolved issues or you don't want to get back into things with him then you shouldn't. If the only issue you have with him is that you don't trust him, you both need to talk about that and find a way to fix that if you ever hope to get back together and have it last.
2006-12-28 10:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that someone is truely sorry is something that only you and your heart feelings can answer for you. In reading your question, I myself asked why didn't he marry you to start with, you was having his baby, why would he not want to be with you? But, by not knowing more about the answers to that question;five years is a long time to be away from a child and then wont to be apart of their lives now. As the childs mother, YOU have to be the one to deside what is right for the child. The child should come first in any decision you yourself make, your old enough to understand, but stop and think about your child and his/her feelings about letting this man back into your life will it affect on you child? Then ask yourself if he didn't love me enough to marry me when he was with me five years ago, whats changed so much now to make me know that he will love me and my child now? Only you and the feelings you have in your heart can answered those questions...
2006-12-28 11:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had a baby with somebody else on the same time as we've been chop up up. It replaced right into a one evening stand. we've been in touch with the youngster when you consider that he replaced into 2 weeks old, he's now 18 months. I even have in no way generally happening this baby or forgiven my husband for it regardless of each thing this time. He says the same element approximately her, he's no longer drawn to her or have any emotions in direction of her. i did no longer have faith him and now my husband and that i are on the verge of a divorce. i'm able to understand the place your boyfriend is coming from, and that may not honest to you or your baby. he's fortunate that the dad is out of the photograph, it might make issues way harder. If he won't be able to be there for you or the youngster together, you will discover somebody who will. consistent with risk whilst he steps faraway from each thing, he will see it is not so undesirable and the toddler would be his too...in basic terms no longer biologically, yet he would have a great effect on her existence. I wish you the terrific. Be reliable for the toddler and be happy. it particularly is going to constantly paintings out for the terrific.
2016-12-15 10:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's important for a childs father to play an active role in their lives. I do not think that you should be with him though. You deserve to be treated better than that. And what's to say he wouldn't leave you again?
2006-12-28 10:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by ddcalny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
watch out. how are you sure he will not ditch you both. that bas***d deserves it fro that old bit**h. he did not bother of you both for so long now he want you both to accept him. he is not woth a man. if you could have raised a small kid you can very well raise her for the rest of the days. he has come to you hor his social security rateher than to provide you both.think not twice but severaltimes befor you decide on him
2006-12-29 03:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by Muruks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably came back to you now because he has no other place to go to. Just because he came back to you doesn't mean he loves you...it means he has learned his lessons and needs you to take care of him. When in doubt, ask him.
When he left you, it seemed he didn't cared at all about you or the baby! it's risky to take him back after all these years! Don't take him seriously because he can leave you again.
2006-12-29 15:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Twinkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Throw him out. He was not there when you needed him most. Now when he is rejected, dejected & a failure he is back to you. You deserve much better than this. Tell him to leave you alone.
2006-12-30 06:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has once cheated you and your little sweet inocent kid. Kick in his *** and throw him right away.
A cheater is always a cheater. Dont become emotional and ruin your kids life. Let that bugger slug with that woman.
2006-12-30 19:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by ga ga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How convenient for him. Leave and come back just like that. Life should be so easy for him.
2006-12-28 19:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋