affair" horror story?
2006-12-28 10:47:14 · 17 answers · asked by mary2148 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not proud to admit this but my marriage ended because of my Internet use as well. I must admit that my use of the Internet was to fill a need that I was not getting from my spouse. We had lost intimacy in our marriage after the birth of our child. I had no interest in ending the marriage and I did not ever physically cheat on my spouse but I would say I had an emotional affair via the Internet which is just as bad. I have since gone to counseling and have learned the error of my ways. I now understand that Internet affairs are no different then in-person affairs. I'm sorry for your pain and all I can say is time does mend all.
2006-12-28 11:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Chris S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's a sad story. However, your marriage didn't break up because of an Internet affair. The problem was already there, the woman (or man) on the Internet is just the person he choose to express the problem too.
If he is getting that deeply involved with a person he probably couldn't see, he more than likely was talking to other people that you didn't catch him with.
I don't know why he felt the need to go outside the marriage, could be something you wasn't giving him or he was just a Dog. What I'm saying is he would have found a way to cheat Internet or not.
2006-12-28 10:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can't be blamed on the Internet, as if he wanted to cheat he would have anyway. blame the husband and his choices, as he could have resisted the temptation theres always a way out or so i have read, would have happened anyway as it was already in his thoughts, he had already decided the Internet was just a way of meeting them. any affair is a horror story for the one cheated on and betrayed no matter where it happened. just have to lay the blame where it belongs, with him, and not be deceived into believing it was something else that caused it.
2006-12-28 11:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Mary
i have a Internet affair for the last 3 years but I'm single 2
2006-12-28 11:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe - sad if anything.
I was talking to this one female who actually tracked me down through an acquaintance. So she knew who I was but I never met her. Anyways, before my very eyes and with every email that was exchanged - she was getting very sick. First with a cold, then how she had missed work for days and then the biopsy that the doctor did. Then her treatments and how she was weak, and how she was losing her hair.
Eventually the emails became few and far in between. And the farther apart they got, they were generated from different areas - once from the dialysis center were she was being treated but she wouldn't tell me which one. And eventually the emails stopped altogether.
She had developed Hodgkin's disease and during that time we became very good friends - I was there for her and that was what she needed.
Before she got sick, what I needed was what she gave me - her time and an ear to vent my displeasure's about my marriage. She would response about fantasy trips we should take and things we should do and marital advice. In the end we became good friends that just flirted on line.
I miss her.
2006-12-28 11:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by 6 pack 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry about your relationship but how does one have an "affair" on the internet. Was he arranging meetings, etc. via email or IM or whatever?
I'm just trying to imagine how an "affair" on the internet works.
2006-12-28 10:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by AK 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my ex was not smart enough to use a computer and the internet, she did her affair thing at work
i am too smart to start having an internet thingy though, so no horror stories here, sorry to disapoint
2006-12-28 11:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my aunt went through that but it wasn't really an affair. These homewreckers were calling her house and junk... it caused some issues but my uncle never met them in person thank goodness. The newness of the chat room girls wore off and now my uncle could care less about talking to anyone.
2006-12-28 10:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Neville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, please...
The internet was NOT responsible for the affair. Your hubby was gonna step out on you whether or not the internet existed.
That was just a convenient excuse for what was already brewing.
2006-12-28 10:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have heard story after story, people are not going any where anymore just pecking on the computer, they are meeting each other later on, for some reason they do not think of it as cheating, but it is...I cyber space you can be who ever you want..then when you meet reality sets in...It is a world wide happening..I am sorry for you...Most of us never think of that but now a days it is the happening thing...Not for me........
2006-12-28 10:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋