i wanted an abortion but i changed my mind plus it was too late..
I'm scared to go to my doctor and tell. and is killing me to hide it from everyone....
2006-12-28 10:31:56 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
GO TO THE DOCTOR.
2006-12-28 10:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Accept that you can't hide it forever. Either the pregnancy will show, or the baby arrives. My best friend was in the same position at 15 and went into panic mode followed by denial. But of course the baby keeps growing whether you like it or not. See a doctor - in the UK I know you're entitled to do so without your parents/carers finding out. There could be possible health complications for you and/or the baby that you need to deal with. Find the courage to tell someone - a friend perhaps, then another, then a favourite teacher, aunt, trusted adult. Everyone will want to help and support you even if they do get mad first. But first things first, go along to a doctor or clinic - doesn't have to be your family GP - make sure you're safe
2006-12-28 10:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by jomarie357 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are going to need to tell someone sooner or later as you can't go thru this alone. Unfortunatley you had sex , now you are pregnant and theres no changing that. Give your baby a chance at life. My mom was 15 when she had me and wanted to abort and im glad she never but she did give me up for adoption and it was the best thing for me. I have also recently adopted a baby boy from a young mother who was scared and didn't want to tell anyone. Don't be the type of person that is going to mess this child up forever take care of yourself go to the doctor immediatley get help and check ups and finish what is already started. You will be ok ! Be brave and be strong and keep holding on.
2006-12-28 10:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by snookumz24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go! Tell! You are not the first young girl to make a mistake. You deserve good prenatal care. If you don't get it, you might have a baby with problems that could have been corrected in the womb, had you seen a doctor.
You are understandably frightened. This is a new experience for you and you are not ready to handle it. if you are still in school, see a female counselor of a trusted female teacher, if you are afraid to tell your parents. They can stand by you and help you get the courage to let your parents know they are about to be come grandparents.
You say you had contemplated abortion. Good for you that you didn't do it. There are options available to you if you want to adopt the baby out. It is not a sin to love your baby enough to give it life and give it up. If you decide to keep it, you will face some rough going. Being a single Mom is very difficult. But it can also be very rewarding. Whatever you decide, there are people who love you and will stand by you.
If you get along well with your parents, tell them right away. They will love you anyway and you'll have someone to comfort you. if, like me, you don't get along with your parents, tell a trusted friend.
Your parents will have to be told soon, as you are getting ready to show.
When they do the check up....... the Doctor will have a nurse in the room with you if the DR. is male. He will have you undress, put on a gown and lie on a table. You'll put your heels into the stirrups which support your feet and help you to open your knees so the Dr. can use a gloved hand to gently check your uterus. Tell the nurse you are frightened. She will help you through the procedure. It will be a little uncomfortable but not painful. The whole exam down there takes at the most, 10 minutes.
I'm sending you many hugs to comfort you.
2006-12-28 10:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by lothespiritalker 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
you should definately go see a doctor even if you are young it is very understandable to be scared but you not getting prenatal care could be very bad for ur self. If something is wrong with your baby its better to know before hand. Lets face it your already 4 months you cant hide it much longer people will be able to tell and may be hurt that you didnt tell them they could of helped you earlier on if you would have told someone. Once you get it out in the open you will feel so much better. good luck.
2006-12-28 11:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a doctor right now. If you don't want to tell anyone, go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood offers a wide range of pregnancy services, not just abortions. Then calm down. If you haven't been drinking or doing drugs, the odds are very good that you and your baby are healthy. But you can't just keep pretending that the pregnancy isn't happening. If you keep the baby, you're going to need advice on supporting yourself and your child. If you plan to give the baby up for adoption, you'll want time to interview prospective parents and find the right family for your son or daughter. Good luck, sweetie.
2006-12-28 10:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by SharonLeigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see the doctor so you can look after yourself and your unborn child properly. The stress of hiding it could be harming you both. it will be okay hun. There is the option of adoption but your doc can talk to you about that if it is what you want. I know you are afraid but it is not a situation that you can get yourself out of so you have to face up to it. The doctor can not tell anyone but people will start to notice soon enough. Go see one, it is very important. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 10:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by sticky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to hide it forever, no matter what you do. You need to go to the doctor pronto, for both your sakes. Once you have an abortion you may never be able to have kids ever, so good choice on not having one. Talk to someone you trust, not on here, not on chat rooms, there is counselors available at places, check the yellow pages.
2006-12-28 10:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was four months pregnant brfore i finally went to the doctor and everything was ok i was very scared to tell my family but once you decided to keep that baby you became that baby's mother now you need to tell your mother if you have one and you mb suprised to find out a mother's love go beyond dissapointment. get to the doctors and get to your mother or father. my daughter is now ten and the only thing in the world that i do not regret. you will not regret having a baby either your life will not end simplily opening a new chapter of life. wish you all the best and just take it day by day and never regret it.
2006-12-28 10:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by carebear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Don't get an abortion at this point. Like you said, it's too late. Are you hiding it because of your family? If it is, they should love you enough to help you and support you.
I have had a lot of friends in the same situation. Send me an email. telenanher420a@yahoo.com
2006-12-28 10:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by telenanher420a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to talk to an adult sooner or later and sooner would be better.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, how about an aunt or your grandmother, a friend's mother, a teacher, counselor or someone else.
It's important to get pre-natal care and you will have to go to a doctor to do that. Females have been having babies forever, so it's normal but you do need to be checked and watched.
Depending on how young you are, the younger need to really be monitored due to other risks.
I don't want to scare you here, but I can't stress how important it is for you to have someone to confide in and share your concerns.
Good luck and talking to someone won't be near as bad as you think it will be.
2006-12-28 10:36:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋