Feel so let down?

Question

I have been married 10 yrs, I am 35. For the last 3 years I feel I have been through hell. For much of the last year my husband has been depressed so much so he often can not get out of bed.
For the last 3 years we have been having ivf and a miscarriage.
I spend a lots of of time with his family but he spends vitually none with mine.
At christmas we spent Xmas eve and day with his and we were supposed to go to mine at 5pm boxing day. Despite my pleas he drank far too much on xmas day and was too hungover to go. In my frustration(also my mum is seriously ill) i said some nasty things on the phone to him. I told him he always let me down and that i was glad i did not have kids with him as he was so unreliable. He hung up on me and has not spoke to me since. He is still at his mums and refuses to come on the phone to me.
I feel i just cannot cope with him anymore, i have spent the last 3 days in tears. But if i leave him i give up my chance of ever having a family. What do I do?

Answer 1

Well let's see, you do not say why your husband is depressed but obviously he self-medicates with alcohol. He wants nothing to do with your family. You have tried various things but at this point you just cannot cope with this man anymore. I guess the next thing I would ask is, why would you want to have a family with this man?
TM