My boyfriend & I moved in about 4 months ago. I was going through a rough time with my family not accepting the fact that I wanted to move in with my boyfriend. I treated my boyfriend very badly...I hit him...cursed at him just plainly mistreated him. Now he is being very nasty with me says that all I do is nag and just plainly mistreats me. How can I get him back I know I made a mistake.
2006-12-28 10:28:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow.
How can you assure him that you're not likely to do this again?
What would you want to do differently?
How would you implement these plans?
I think you might benefit from making a list of things that you did that you are sorry for, make another list of things that you even suspect he didn't like (whether you consider them to be a non-issue or not), and one more list identifying ways to avoid such behavior in the future. While this 3-part list will help you realize the things that you regret, it will also provide substance for him to review. Something physical, tangible, not just words.
I can only suggest to you to get ready for a little bit of a wait because people don't forget hurt that quickly. Some handle it differently, but they don't get over it. Also, you're going to need to bring him to a point to understand that being nasty with you isn't going to benefit either of you.
Maybe you could send him an email for him read at his leisure - very short, very sweet, telling him that you're working on defining ways that you can become a quality addition to his life, instead of the "mistreating monster" you believe you once were. Acknowledge that you understand why he's treating you the way he does now. Ask for the opportunity (sometime in the future, a couple weeks, a month, whatever) to start from scratch. After that time has passed, ask him if he'd like to meet you somewhere (a restaurant, maybe outside someplace) and shake his hand at that meeting and introduce yourself all over again.
Work into that conversation something about your past and how you once dated this guy (him) and how you were mean to him and what you believe the explination for that behavior is. (It'll add a bit of humor for which you may both be very gratefull.)
You can even show him the list you made in order to be a better person to your partner. Reference that list to that ex boyfriend. It will add to the idea that you want you BOTH to start over. With luck, he'll comprehend that this means he can't continue to treat you this way, either.
2006-12-28 10:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, you set the stage for a bad relationship.
2006-12-28 18:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look I have gone with this problem too,but in the opposite.I screamed to my girlfriend.what I did and my advise is to tell him you are sorry and you will not do it Aegean you will be sorry.If that doesn't works there is nothing you can do,because if he realy loves you he will forgive you truat me.
2006-12-28 20:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by kyoufuc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somebody needs to make really really nice...take him away for a relaxing weekend and do nothing but try to make it up to him...talk...apologize for being a nasty woman....make love...apologize some more and good luck
2006-12-28 18:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a night out of the town.This time you pay.
2006-12-28 18:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beats me.
2006-12-29 03:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you started it ...live with it...or dump him
2006-12-28 18:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋