Bill her bookie and Bill her probation officer. No seriously, I found out she was having an affair and wanted a divorce. I moved out in October. I am paying for her car, insurance the mortgage. Since she is staying in the house she agreed to pay the utilities. However appearantly she can't do tht however when I went by to pick up some of my stuff a few weeks ago she has a whole new wardrobe and there is a case of wine on the floor. I know this is a stupid question but should I help her out? can anyone think of a reason I should? We have no children together.
2006-12-28 10:20:48 · 32 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, you are right, stupid question dude. You know something else, she knows you are stupid and plays you that way. Man, she is using you. You know it, she knows it, we now know it. No amount of being stupid will make her love or care for you. Wise up man. You cant make others care for you no matter how nice you are or how good you are. You can only encourage them to take you for a fool.
She already has shown you that she thinks she can play you. She let her responsibilities go and bought what she wanted, even after she said she would do her part.
GET IT? Man, do what she does, watch out for your own ***. If you dont, she will take it too. You know, you can only consider a person so bad, when they treat you as you allow or show them you will tolerate.
2006-12-28 10:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until there are official separation or divorce papers filed in court, you do not pay nothing. Let her work 2 jobs. You have no children. If she does not pay the bills, let the utilities get cut off, let them have the house back if she does not want to make the payments. Better still, let the guy she is messing around with pay them for her. you are not obligated to do this right now, wait until a judge tell you to do it, until then, save your money . If she files for a divorce, you will need it then. Do not keep being her fool.
2006-12-28 10:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't have children together, the only reason to continue paying the bills is if you have a reasonable expectation that you will be returning to the house. If the relationship is over, then it is over. Continuing to "take care" of her will only end up being a financial burden on you and she will have no reason to stop having her cake and eating it too. After all, she's able to sleep with anyone she wants and she's got you to pay her bills.
2006-12-28 10:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by jenn_jenn02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give her one red cent you are an idiot.
Stop paying her car insurance and get a lawyer involved so you can get reibursed for your half of the house she is staying in.
It used to be that the system awarded women for divorce, this just isn't so anymore, and there are a lot of mens rights organizations that would not only LOVE to help you see she gets her just deserts, but will trash and humiliate her (as she deserves) in your local media.
Don't give her another cent.
2006-12-28 10:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by aural_exstacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should'nt help her out unless you think that there might be chance you will get back together. If you know that you are over for good, only pay the bills that are in your name. If nothing is in your name, let her learn the hard way. If you keep paying her bills you will basicly be her sugar daddy and she'll keep buying new clothes and using your hard earned cash. After all, she was the one having the affair.
2006-12-28 10:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by oldsrocketbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop paying anything that doesn't have your name on it in whole or part. The house is clearly an issue. Contact a realtor and put it on the market. You each take your share and go your separate ways. She's not working with you and will take you down with her. Sounds like despite the affair, you still love her. Even if that's the case, you can't allow her to destroy you financially...and that's what she's fixing to do.
2006-12-28 10:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Apple21 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You are doing enough. Let her new man pay her bills. Who ever bought her all the clothes and wine can buy her electricity and phone. You need to get a legal seperation. I know you think she will grow out of it and come to her senses but you have not given her a reason to do that yet.
2006-12-28 11:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you moved out in October, have no kids and have been making those payments I would take her to small claims court and have her pay you back. No judge in their right mind will believe that you are making those payments on her behalf as a gift. If the assets are partly in your name than you continue to make the payments to protect your credit but it's time for her to either get a job and buy you out, or sell everything so you can get your fair share of the assets.
2006-12-28 10:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um. Yes. You two purchased a house together using BOTH your incomes and now you expecting her to take on 100% of the bills with 50% of the income (vs. 50% of the bills with twice the income).. Is she able to pay all the bills on her own without you? Probably not. You still have financial OBLIGATIONS that you COMMITTED yourself to.
Check with an attorney honey. SHE CAN expect you to assist her with it. However, it should be EQUITABLE.
And, unfortunately, finances are separate from fault. Meaning, it does not matter that she cheated on you in regards to the bills. Even if she is a skank ho.
2006-12-28 10:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-11 17:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by amass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋