My 16 yr old daughter had a 1 yr old child and I been fighting over 6 months to get her home the law says they cant help. She is at her b/fs house and wont leave. the police say they cant make her leave. Does anyone have any advise for me I am at wits end here.
2006-12-28 10:07:11 · 24 answers · asked by Wicked T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My 16 yr old daughter had a 1 yr old child and I been fighting over 6 months to get her home the law says they cant help. She is at her b/fs house(hes not the baby's father) and wont leave. the police say they cant make her leave. Does anyone have any advise for me I am at wits end here
2006-12-28 10:13:35 · update #1
In the eyes of the law she is now an adult. My suggestion is to be patient and talk to her and maybe she will feel comfortable coming home. She may also be staying at her boyfriends to let her child have a stable family environment, maybe she is doing what is best for the child.
2006-12-28 10:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by reptmd 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because a 12-year-old can reproduce doesn't make them an adult!
An adult is anyone 18 years or older. Just because your daughter has a child does NOT make her an adult! It makes her a teen mom. Fight the system! If the police won't bring her home, research the laws in your area and find out what your rights as a parent are. Contact the school your daughter is supposed to be attending. You're the mother and it's your responsibility to make sure your daughter is being cared for. I'm concerned for your grandchild also, because there's no way a 16-year-old can provide a safe and healthy environment for a young child without help themselves.
Good luck and God bless you!
2006-12-28 12:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By law she is an adult at the age of eighteen. But if the police and the law won't help then there is not much you can do. In a lot of states though you are still held responsibile for anything that she does. You may want to find out if this is so in your state. If need be file an unruly child charge on her.
This girl has major issues right now. What do her b/f's parents say about this? In no way shape or form should she be living there. I agree she is acting like a spoiled brat. Add to the fact she has a baby. I would even go so far as to put childrens services in the middle of it. More for the baby's sake then anything else.
2006-12-28 11:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by logan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really don't know what to tell you.
Technically she doesn't have to come home. At that age she can drop out of school and make some pretty big decisions. I do think though that once you have a child regardless of your age it makes you an adult in the legal sense. Although you cant do things that an 18 year old can.
Just because you have a kid doesn't mean you can smoke, or get your drivers license.
I really can't say much. When I was 16 I got pregnant and at 17 had a baby. I didn't want to live with my mom because of her drinking. I wanted to be on my own.
I mean have you tried just tlaking to her. How old is her boyfreind? Do they live with his parents? I mean if she lives with him and he is over 18 that is stagatory rape even if she agreed! But if you mention that it could just push her away more. Would you let him live with you too. That coudl be a solution.
If they live with his parents have you talked to them? I would try to be rational, the more you pry the more they will draw away.
2006-12-28 10:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to your local library and read the law books, or contact a lawyer. I would say that she isn't, but I moved out with a baby at her age, but know one tried to bring me back home. My advise besides what I previously mentioned would be to make sure that the baby's needs are being met. Try to recommend her to the division of family services and WIC if your state has it, or you may want to look into housing for them. If she is not in school recommend getting a GED- try to help her learn a sense of direction even if you can't bring her home. Some day she will grow up and depending on both of your personalities your open mindedness and mothering from a distance will be greatly appreciated. Oh yeah, see to it that she gets on birth control if at all possible. Good luck!
2006-12-28 10:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Nicki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she is 16 she cannot be considered a runaway. My oloder brother left home at 17, I eft at 18 and my younger brother is now 16 and wants to leave, but that was because of our home enviroment. How old is her boyfriend? Check your state's consent laws. Sooner or later she will come home though. I don't imagine raising a child at 16 has been too easy for her, unless she is not to one raising it. Sit down with her and work things out.
2006-12-30 03:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by nodesignerdogs4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though ur daughter is 16, it doesnt technically make her an adult since she has made a mistake and isnt mature enough when u are an adult it means that u know exactly what u are doing and everything. and her stubborness shows and prvoes that she isnt an adult yet. does ur daughter want to talk to u? if u can get in contact with her try speaking with her tell her that u want to do the best whats best for her. if ur daughter really trully understands i know she misses her family a lot im sure of that so just try talking to her and dont give up becuase ur her mom and u need to stay strong for her.
2006-12-28 10:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No she's not, its not the fact of having a child thats makes one an adult. its the ability of that one to properly care and maintain that child plus i dont think that in any state or country in the western hemisphere the law states that when your 16 your an adult, you may give consent to sexuals acts, yes, but you would still be under your parents rules. so i suggest you find a lawyer or some other law enforcer to get back your child, after all she is a child . And forget the boyfriend he himself want two good slap if to have your child under his roof to further destroy and damage her.
2006-12-30 05:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by drea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the state. You probably need to contact a lawyer to find out what the laws are in your area. Its not the fact that she has a child that makes her an "adult" it would be her age.
2006-12-28 10:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.You probley need a lawyer.This in no way makes her an adult.If you fear she is living in poor conditions or feel the baby is not being taken care of properly you need to inform the police from this point of reasoning.I wish you luck.
2006-12-29 07:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋