If you were molested by your father would you leave your 8 year old son with him?

Question

I had a friend who did. Notice I said had I reported her to social services.

I beg to differ Hot N Spicy..someody had to step up and do the right thing for that little boy. She wasn't. I hace two babies myself and i wouldn't even get them in eyeshot of a convicted child molester or even someone i suspect of it.

Answer 1

Your right Hot-n-spicy is delusional. I am way dpwn on the list here so I hope you see my answer but our kids as a nation need people like you to stand up for them. His mother sure doesn't care about him.

Answer 2

Sounds like your friendship is over because you involved yourself. Did you talk to your friend about your concerns before you "reported" her. And what about her did you "report"? If the father was abusive he should have been the one reported.

I would have done something too. I'm not sure what exactly, I may have started with a conversation with her to express my concerns for the child. If that didn't work and she chose to leave her child with him anyway I probably would have done the same. Abusive adults cannot be trusted behind closed doors.
Tough situation, you did all you could do to protect the child. Good enough.

Answer 3

No child should be left alone with a person that is a known abuser. You certainly did the right thing by reporting this incident to social services. I hope they made sure to set your friend on the right path.

Answer 4

Personally I wouldn't, however, I don't know that I would call social services on someone else when I didnt know all of the facts. Even though we would like to take a "better safe than sorry" approach, I don't think its worth screwing up someone's life if they are innocent.

People are presumed to be guilty when charged with molestation or accused of commiting a sex crime against a minor.

Answer 5

A molester needs attention from people, but no, I would not leave my child with him.You done the right thing in reporting him and her.Someone has to take up for the helpless.......

Answer 6

i'm sorry but that has got to be the most ignorant question on the face of the earth. if he molested his daughter, even if he got help, there's is still a chance that he could do it again and taht is not a chance worth taking for that little boy!

Answer 7

I would never leave any child with a person who has a history of molesting children. I think she's in denial. She wants the perfect family with the grandfather who watches the grandchild and takes him fishing etc. Wake her up from her denial please before he ends up hurting her child too. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 8

NO!!! I would never leave a child with someone who has molested anyone. Good for you for reporting her...by leaving her son with her father that was really putting her son in danger...Good thing she has a friend like you...or at least...good for her son.

Answer 9

Good for you. She/He need professional counselling, Her/His child will in all likely hood also need some kind of help also. People whom suffer this sort of abuse often suffer life long trauma, and this may result in his/her own relationship with their child. (Anything from a continuing cycle to not being able to express normal physical interaction with his/her child.) This is a very sad and potentially dangerous situation.

Answer 10

Hell no! My ex molested my oldest child and I refuse to allow him visitation with our two for exactly that reason. Safety first. I'm not going to let my kids be the Guinea Pigs that show he's "cured"..