My best friend and I made plans to hang out for New Year's Eve. (We're both 35-ish and single). I just today get an email from her stating some friend of hers will now be in town unexpectedly and she'll be hanging out with this person instead. She's done simliar things like this few times in the past to me. I am sooo pissed...do I have a right to be? Or should I be more understanding?
2006-12-28 09:33:33 · 5 answers · asked by faithinaction1465 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, you have a right to be upset, you just became second fiddle, that hurts no matter how you toss it up. It might have been nice if you had been asked if it would be alright if these out-of-town friends could join you, or if you had instead been invited to join them, but to be tossed aside implies that you are less valued by this friend. If these out of town friends have come a long way, however, and the chances to visit with them are slim to none, or you would not likely get along well together there is room there to cut your friend some slack this time and blow it off. Try to look at it from your friend's point of view. How did she see the situation? Would you have felt the same had the shoe been on your foot? Then you can honestly decide if there is any need to get all bent out of shape about it. The fact that you question whether or not you should be mad implies that there may be more to it than your initial hurt feelings let you see. (but that does not mean your feelings aren't worth acknowledging)
2006-12-28 09:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Irish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You totally have the right to be pissed off! My friend( well kind of) Cassie does that to me all the time. She will make plans with me and then someone else will come along, and she will totally blow me off! I feel like the rebound girl and I'm always second place. We both need to stop being pushovers and find better friends!
2006-12-28 18:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have the right to do this. she got u all excited and changed the plans cuz of her sched. she wudnot like it if u got her all excited, and then said, im gonna do it with someone else. tell her how u feel. i have a friend sorta like that. she tells me one thing, then when she finds out something else, she'll cancel, ruining my day
2006-12-28 17:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your friend really care, she'd go with you and her other friends. or at least ask you if you'd still want to go.
2006-12-28 17:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to be angry, but just talk to her.
2006-12-28 18:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by daniele™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋