and you were 13 and your parents think that you are a good girl
2006-12-28 09:21:21 · 25 answers · asked by jhayes 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just tell them. Say I know you think I am a good girl but your wrong. I slept with (insert name(s) here) and now I am pregnant. Be prepared to tell them what you intend to do about the situation. And be VERY prepared for their disappointment. Good luck
2006-12-28 09:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if i had a 13 year old daughter and thought that she was a "good girl" i would want her to be up front with me and i probably would totally freak however i would have to be supportive. I know that she has made a wrong decision but she still is my daughter. If you are pregnant and intend to keep the baby you need to tell your parents a.s.a.p. because you need to get the prenatal care as soon as you can. On the other hand if you do not intend to keep it that is more of the reason to do so. Because the longer you wait the more painful it is going to be to "let go" of the fact that you no longer pregnant (personal experience) So dear if you are pregnant just suck it up and face the music and telly our parents. The sooner the better for you and the baby.
2006-12-28 09:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by forevernoemi's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, DO NOT have a friend/relative break the news for you. IT may sound easier but in the end it is MUCH worse. I went thru the same thing when I had JUST turned 18. You need to get some counceling first. Call up to your local hospital and see if you can talk to someone either in person or on the phone for a while. I did this and it DOES help. You have to keep asking yourself and be brutally honest about what you want to do. I am not a fan of abortion either, but in many cases, it is the right thing to do. If that is the road you are leaning towards, please talk to your parents sooner. I agree that the longer you wait... the harder it is. My boyfriend and I broke the news together to both of our parents. My brother was also in the same situation when he was 17 and his girlffriend was 15. They had a family member break the news and it was by far a million times worse than when I did. Take a day or two to run different reactions in your head and your resposes to them. You have made an adult decision by having sex and are now pregnant, you have to have adult answers on how you are going to handle this. It was easier to have my boyfriend their to help me out when I told my parents. IF he is sticking around, or even knows, you may want to let him tell them with you. But the words need to come from you and you alone. If you want to talk more I would be glad to help you out.. (and that goes for the 18 yr old in the same sit!) I have been their and lived thru it. Your parents are going to be disapointed at first, they may cry, and be mad... but remember... you are their daughter,and no matter what they do love you! IF you want to talk Please email me! (trippinwurmz@yahoo.com) IT is much easier talking to a 3rd party to prep yourself first. Good luck to you!
2006-12-28 09:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by trippinwurmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 15 years old when I got pregnant with my son, he is 9 y.o. now. It was hard, but we made it through. I thought my dad would kill me, but he took it alot better than I thought. There are a lot of programs that can help you, the baby, and your parents deal with this. Just be sure to stay in school and graduate. It's something you will not regret. There is nothing like being a mother. Maybe it would be easier for you to tell a close family member or friend, even a counselor and have them with you when you tell your parents, that way you are not alone. Good Luck
2006-12-28 09:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by 1ontheway 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and Honest with them, and do it face to face. Sure they might get mad and upset, but most parents would initially. I think if the guy is in the picture he has some responsibility here too. If you think you will be kicked out the house, ask a friend to stand by to take you in until they have calmed down if need be. I know if you were my daughter I would be dissapointed more than angry, but would rather know so I could help you rather than think you were too frightened to tell me and cope on your own with this.
If one parent would take it better than the other maybe go to them first.
2006-12-28 09:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Marmitemonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with them and let them know what is going on. It is your right as a person AND their child to tell or not to tell them what is going on with your body. First and foremost though, make sure you are really pregnant (not trying to be funny). Second, be sure your are prepared for your parents to be upset & disappointed about your situation. Thirdly, go into this with your mind set on what you want to do after all it is your body and your child. Your parents will still be your parents not matter what and they will always love you no matter what you do in your life, "good girl" or not. If you are "cool" with your parents they might be more understanding and more willing to work with you and the father of your child. Good luck to you and to your future family.
2006-12-28 09:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by harleybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my mom everything first before my dad. Even now that Im pregnant and live on my own, am financially stable, and my boyfriend and I were trying to have a baby it was still a little tough when I realised that I had to tell my parents, not knowing what their reaction would be. I told my mom and she was so happy she started crying, and then she told my dad with me. They are both very excited and I think that if you let them know, and are mature about it, they will see that and be supportive. Good luck!
2006-12-28 09:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go to the both of them and tell them there is something you need to tell them. tell them you are more than likely going to be disappointed but they need to know anyways. then just tell them that you are pregnant. (good girls make mistakes too) then you should all discuss what is best. i am no fan of abortion by any means i think it is murder but if you all agree that is what needs to be done then do it. KEEP IN MIND that there are always other alternatives like couples who cant have kids and would love a newborn child and adoption. i think those two options are better than abortion. if your parents want you to get an abortion and you dont want one, DO NOT GET IT!!! they cannot make you do anything even though you are only 13 years old. it is considered murder if they make you get one and you dont want one.
2006-12-28 09:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by merwin5236 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny...I just found out that I'm pregnant this weekend. I guess you can say it was our Christmas present. I'm 18 years old and I'm going through the same thing as you. I dont know how to tell my mother because I dont want to dissapoint her. I am planning on telling her soon. Just stay strong and remember that they are your parents and they are going to be there for you and the baby, even if theyre just mad at first. But theyre going to find out sooner or later. Good luck!
2006-12-28 09:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥i WANNA KN0W♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there's no way to tell them that would prevent them from being mad, but if you could get your child's father to talk to your parents with you then YOU would feel a lot better about it. If you can't get your child's father to be by your side when you're dealing this with your parents then you can always tell them when they're in a good mood (do something wonderful to them first, then drop the bomb), or you could tell them when you are having dinner with them in a resturant, that way you'll feel more secure.
Good luck
2006-12-28 09:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋