2006-12-28 09:20:54 · 48 answers · asked by susie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
how can i get him to talk to me about it .i do worry about him should have out it in a different way instead of deal with him
2006-12-28 09:35:35 · update #1
how can i get him to talk to me about it .i do worry about him should have out it in a different way instead of deal with him
2006-12-28 09:36:08 · update #2
how can i get him to talk to me about it .i do worry about him should have out it in a different way instead of deal with him
2006-12-28 09:36:21 · update #3
HI Susie,
I would strongly suggest that you deal with your gay family member the same way that he deals with all you 'straight members' of the family.
Does he embarrass you by his actions? Do you get the opportunity to partake in his sexual activity? Do you have absolutely any influence on his partner? Do you even get the chance to tell him how wrong he is? In other words Susie, do you 'judge' him by his orientation?
On the other hand do you purposely attempt to embarrass him? Does he get opportunity to be included in you and your partner's sexual activity? Does he attempt to influence your partner? Does he ever get the chance to preach to you how wrong it is for you to like the oppose sex? Does he judge you for who you are?
Chances are, you answered no to many of these questions.
You see Susie, having a gay sibling is so simple. For starters, like yourself, he too has 10 fingers and 10 toes - he also has a heart, a brain, and a mind. He can laugh, sing, cry and when need be, he too can become angry. The absolute only difference between you and he is the person of whom is in your bed - as it is none of his business who's in yours - well then - it's really none of your business who's in his. Now, having said this - ask yourself and be honest - is it really going to be hard to deal with?
I thought you would come up with that answer !
Good luck Susie,
BGA
2006-12-28 09:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by bga 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With love and compassion.
This person is going through a really hard time, and often in these situstions, family might be the only thing he has to turn to for support.
I can imagine this must be hard on you, but you must try to understand his situation, and keep the communications open. I can assure you, you will see that he is the exact same person you always was.
The only thing that differs now is his sexuality, a small part of who he is, and not the centre of his being. He is still the same person, and by communicating you will see this.
I really hope you get through this. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-12-28 09:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Alex C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'gay' person is exactly the same person you have always known and should always be treated as such. Because you know of their sexual preferences does not mean they have changed in any way - they seem different because you choose to see it that way. Does anyone know of your sexual preferences whether straight or gay? If you told someone what you like regardin g sex then you would hate it if they always thought of you in that way and not as the person you have always been, and leave the attitudes to sex out of the friendship. I think you will teach yourself to live and accept 'gay' as normal for your friend.
2006-12-28 09:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by leximp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many family members who are gay. I don't "deal" with it. I accept them for what they are. I don't particularly care for thier lifestyle, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they're a bad person. It wouldn't make a difference if they were straight or gay, they'd still be part of my family. As long as they don't start breaking the law, or molesting children, then I don't have a problem with any of them and they're welcome in my home.
2006-12-28 09:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everytime you look at him picture him snoggin the face off other guys. picture him bendin over and takin it like a b!tch. picture him givin it guys up the back passage. havin a willy in his mouth and suckin on another guys parts.
thing of how disgusting it is and what people must think about you and your family now.
build all your anger up and then tell the little poof that you never want to see him again, disown him and beat the sh!t out of him.
yuk! a gay!
2006-12-28 14:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept them the way they are. Its not their fault being gay they are born like that. My son is 19 yrs old and gay and he is the most wonderful person you can meet.
2006-12-29 02:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they did n't join those horrendous gay-pride marches and act like a normal human being,treat them the same as anyone else.If they start kissing /groping in your presence then tell them truthfully that it is disgusting and to desist.Most homosexual people I know act normally and do n't cause offence,it is the few extroverts that turn people against gay people.
2006-12-28 09:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you contact PFLAG.org: Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
www.pflag.org
2006-12-29 05:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with?
They are exactly the same person they were before you knew they were gay,they dont have to be "dealt with".
2006-12-28 09:30:07 · answer #9 · answered by Pat R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like anyone else in the family. They're no different just because they're gay. They're still human beings plus they have the added bonus of being part of my family. That means no matter what, they're loved and will not be judged.
2006-12-28 09:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋