My husband is a good man. I have nothing in common with him and find him irritating. He claims nothing is ever good enough for me, maybe he is right. I want out and have tried counseling. What steps should I take to make this work smoothly.
2006-12-28 09:16:36 · 19 answers · asked by feelingblue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell him and then go, its all you can do if you have tried to make it work
2006-12-28 09:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if he is a good man, are you sure you want to leave him knowing that it is soooo hard to find a good man in this world today? Did you know that you had nothing in common when you married him? How serious did you go to counseling and put all the cards on the table? I believe a lot of talking is needed on both parts. If you believe in prayer, it is time to start praying it out. I will tell you that everything doesn't have to be on common ground. But respect needs to definately happen. Good luck and please don't give up so easily.
2006-12-28 17:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First you need to remember what made you love him in the first place... You can try counseling and maybe make him a list of things that irritate you the most.... Invite him to do the same and together you can work on making things fun again
2006-12-28 17:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by woodchuck1130 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah my people seem to take such a flippant attitude on marriage in our society. If you have children you need to suck it up and do everything in your power to make this work. And you won't make it work without God. If the two of you aren't going to church you should start immediately then both of you get back into counseling with a Christian counselor. You took holy sacred vows and you need to do everything you can to uphold those vows.Children are horribly devastated and traumatized by divorce.
If you don't have children you still need to go through the above steps and put everything into making your marriage work. All things are possible through God.
2006-12-28 17:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have tried counseling and have both made an effort to improve the marriage, then there is nothing left to do but go your separate ways.
Neither one of you would want to live your life in an unhappy marriage.
2006-12-28 17:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just get a divorce. I know you may not want to become another statistic but if your not happy then the marriage is not going to work.. quite prolonging the process and let it happen. Get your divorce soon.
2006-12-28 17:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your counselor should be able to advice you about the steps to take. But if there is not another person involved or there is no abuse, you should try to work out your marriage.
2006-12-28 17:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have kids than you need to end the marriage before you do. If you do have kids than you need to find a way to make the marriage work for your kids.
2006-12-28 17:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
D-I-V-R-O-C-E! If you're not appy, then go. I am sure he isn't. it might hard but think about that he is telling you and what you want your life to be like or what you thought it would be like with a man of you dreams!
2006-12-28 17:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and find out who you are. Maybe you need to find yourself and figure out who you are and what you want.
2006-12-28 17:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Disha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short not to be happy,find happiness elsewhere,think of your own happiness and what you want in life
2006-12-28 17:19:14 · answer #11 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋