My fiance & I have been together for 6 years and are to be married in about 4 months. About 3 years ago I, in a stupidly drunken night, cheated on him. I cried for days and vowed to never allow this to happen again. I decided I was willing to live a life of grief and a guilty conscience to keep the love of my life. Now 3 years later, some how the story gets out and my fiance found out. He is terribly hurt, which is expected of course. He though has said that he will not leave me as long as he can believe that nothing else has happened we can work through it. Probably the only reason why is because it was so long ago and he can look back at all the wonderful times we have had since then. Now, I feel somewhat uneasy planning our wedding that is only a few months away after this has spilled out & he is so hurt. He has told me that he still wants to marry me as long as I can promise to be honest. As I do know it will take a while to build his trust up. What is your advice to me?
2006-12-28 09:15:10 · 5 answers · asked by Kiki_white 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has said that he doesn't want to leave me; however, I am hurting so bad and feel to terrible I do not know if I can handle it. His mother (whom I respect to dearly), father, & brother know now. I do not know if I can face them. I really have thought about how things would be better for me to not be here anymore. I just hate to put him through this all. He doesn't deserve it at all. I just don't know how to handle it and myself. I am scared of being alone & what I may do to myself out of sorrow.
2006-12-29 03:50:48 · update #1
Talk to your fiance and see if he would feel more comfortable waiting until you can earn his complete trust again. Take your cue from him.
2006-12-28 09:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He must really love you alot. Be glad the truth is out and you don't have a secret like that hanging over your head. Everyone makes mistakes and he has forgiven you. You will have to put up with him having alot of trust issues with you. You have alot to prove to him and it will take a long time. Will you be able to handle his insecurities? If the answer is yes then wipe the slate clean and be faithful from this day forward. I only hope he really has forgiven you and doesn't throw this up in your face for the rest of your married years. That would be miserable.
2006-12-28 17:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that you can do to heal the wound. Only time and your continuous faithfulness can do that.
I hope that you learned you lesson. I highly advise that you stay away from alcohol since you know that you have no control of your senses when you are drunk. Now you also know why church people look down on drinkers.
Good luck to you.
Mr. M on "cheated."
2006-12-28 17:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Postpone the wedding till you guys are fixed. Otherwise if he can't really forgive and forget you rae in divorce court.
2006-12-28 17:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by sarcasm_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have told him when it happened.
What to do now? First show him your question. Then plan a short vacation with him.
2006-12-28 17:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋