is my boyfriend cheating?

Question

hes cheated befor. and now he will not let me look at his phone. at all. in fact he hides it from me. some guys have told me that its just somthing that they dont want there girl to be looking at and others tell me that there is most likely a big problem. ive been with him for a long time and we have an 11 month old daughter and he clams to be 100% faithfull and that he would never do that to me agian. but im not to sure....

1. I do work. im a mortgage processor

2. I do live with him.

3. I would never have an abortion. and no i didnt get pregnant on purpose just to keep him...that is discusting.

4. I do not belive in welfare.

5. He dose not go out with his friends. but we do work diffrent scheduals. i work in the moring and he works nights.

6. I have been with him since i was 14...long time i know, but with some breaks in between. and i am now 21.

7. i had no idea that he had ever cheated on me until i was 8 months pregnant with our daughter. and yes it had happend befor i was pregnant.

Answer 1

He is cheating on you. You know he is...you just want to hear it from someone else.
Question: Why are you suprised?

A person with nothing to hide--hides nothing.

Answer 2

Sorry. If he's cheated before chances are good he'll do it again. If he won't let you see his phone there's probably a reason for it. Look at it this way, the quicker you ditch him the faster a REAL man can come into your life and treat you like a princess. Remember what Oprah says and believe them the FIRST time they show you who they are. I don't know you so I'm just guessin' but I bet you wouldn't even THINK about being unfaithful to him. Thank God that you're smart enough to figure it out and then move on! Your daughter will thank you for it later. Bottom line is; if you didn't know the answer to this question you would never have asked it-- you know in your bones that he's cheating. Face it-- get the gate and turn him out. A dog doesn't change his incisors.

Answer 3

Let me tell you this. He my be hiding something and he my not. STOP!!!!! worrying about whats on his phone. Let him have some privacy. If you keep pushing him that is just what he is going to do. Don't put all your energy in finding out what he is doing. Take care of your child and yourself. If he said that he is a 100% faithful, then trust his word. Cause if he is doing wrong. Like they say " what ever you do in the dark will come out into the light." You are the woman in this relationship. You set the tone on how the relationship goes. Be a good woman and live your life to the fullest,and get out of his butt. Use your power of prayer. Leave it with GOD and go on. Don't weary it will but OK. Start building your life he will catch up.

Answer 4

Honey, the hole that you dug up keeps getting deeper, but Mr. M has some advice that you can surely use to help you out.
Your first mistake was to have the child. You thought that you could oblige him to marry you, but now you know differently. he cheated on you and that was a slap on the face that brought you back to reality. Now you doubt that he is faithful. Ummm.
This what you need to do: 1) Save some money and don't tell him about it. 2)Talk to your mother and inquire on the possibility of your moving in with her. This should not be permanent, but it will do for a while. 3) confront him and get to the bottom of this. Ask around for more info. regarding his activities. If he "goes out with the guys," chances are that you are on your way out of his life. 4) Get yourself an education so that you can make the money that you need for life.
Child support or not you still need to get control of your life and learn to fish for better men. Better men want a good looking woman who is hard-working. The woman that earns the respect of a man by her earning power and education is the woman that successful men will keep for life. Be that woman and live well. After all, you owe it to yourself.
Get to it, tigress.
Mr. M on "cheating."

Answer 5

Trust me if he will not let you look at his phone he has other girls numbers in it. An ex an I tried to work it out one time and I didn't trust him either so I asked for him to let me see his phone. He didn't want to give it to me so I just took and and guess what I found a girl he was talking to number. when he didn't have numbers in it he would say go ahead if you don't trust me look at my phone. When they become protective of their phone it is because they have numbers in it. Think about it this way. It's just a phone if you have nothing to hide why wouldn't you let someone see it. A little piece of advice if you ask for it now and he gives it to you after you have confronted him already he deleted it and has it kept somewhere else. Since he has cheated before he should be trying to prove his trust. it's time to let him go. I dumped the guy with the phone problem and I'm a single parent.

Answer 6

No one here can tell you for sure whether he's cheating or not, however...
He is not exhibiting the behavior of someone who has nothing to hide. It seems as if he were sincerely sorry for the earlier cheating he would have no problem reassuring you if you need it.
I assume that you aren't living together or you'd be able to see the phone bill when it came in. Does he pay child support? Maybe he wants to keep you on the hook so that you don't get mad and go to court to force him to pay legally? As long as you feel like you his girlfriend you won't make trouble for him. I bet that you either get welfare or work to pay for yourself and your child. As long as he's got you to hump when he wants it, and have you feeling like you still have youbabysdaddy, he feels safe from the legal problems that would come if you knew he wanted to ho with other gals.
Girl, if I were you, I'd get my legals in order because this doesn't sound like a guy that intends to have an honest LONG TERM committment.

Answer 7

If he's cheated before there's every chance he will cheat again.

Look at his phone, what has he got to hide? My bf can look at my phone any time he wants, I wouldn't even flinch! BUT look at it with his permission, don't go sneaking around making yourself paranoid. Things must be out in the open.

There's no reason he should be so cagey. Yes he deserves his privacy, but if he's actually HIDING it from you, there's a bit of a problem.

Answer 8

If he does not want you to look at his phone, then he is hiding Something. He is. Tell him that you can't trust him because you still feel like he is hiding something. And that means he should let you look at his phone. My boyfriend does not hide anything like that, he isn't doing anything he shouldn't, so he has no need to hide anything. I would be suspicious, and i would tell him how i feel. If he is hiding something, he will probably get defensive about this, and tell you that you're being overbearing. I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck.

Answer 9

I think you might have a big problem if he can't be honest with you. Why he should hide his phone he must have something to hide. If he cheated before he might not be cheating, but I would have to question it, if he goes so far as to hide his phone.

Answer 10

He does have a right to privacy on his phone, and you should not go snooping on it. Even if you find calls from women on it, that is not conclusive evidence of infidelity.
So you either have to trust him, or not trust him and find proof without doing anything unethical yourself. You just have to ask yourself, deep down in your gut, is he faithful or not?
Also, couple counseling may help the two of you communicate more effectively and openly.

Answer 11

Your instincts are probably correct. Now it is up to you to decide if you want to live this sort of live or try and move on and start anew. Regardless of your decision I wish you good luck and a hope that you will have enough strength to do what is best for YOU!