teenager's attitude towards sex.?

Question

I know I'm old and traditional, but I am stunned by teenagers' attitude towards sex nowadays. Some wanted to lose 'theirs' as early as possible. In my days (20-30 years ago), we would keep it until marriage or at least to the one we wanted to get married.

Is it just me who is thinking that the Govt should do something to educate this generation about fidelity and commitment? I like the old days when family relationship was closer, and there was less conflict and more respect for each other. Now we just talk about rights and freedom. May be it's just me!

Answer 1

Well I'm 15 and I'm not doing it until I'm married, thank you very much =P

Answer 2

Hi, I dont think the government should interfere as really they cant do anything. I dont agree with how it comes across by the teenagers today but everyone is different as you can see from the answers. I dont believe in waiting until marraige but i do believe in waiting until you find the person you are in love with. All this sleeping around rubbish i dont agree with, as making love is sacred and private.
I think teenagers need to know more about it as early as possible and i believe parents should talk to there children about it more. I think 20- 30 years ago it was like a sin to even mention the word. But it needs to be mentioned. The more the older folk shy away and tell teenagers it wrong the more they will do it.
Plus nowadays marrage cost so much and i doubt if you are in love with a peron you are going to wait years before having a sexual relatioship with that person just because you someone has told you you should save yourself until marraige.
I suppose this will never be solved as there are two veiws.

Answer 3

No, its me too. I am only 21 and it is driving me crazy. When i was in high school it was the same way, a lot of my friends bragged about sex, and they lost their virginity around 13 or 14. Which was CRAZY to me. I waited until i was 18, and my first time was a BIG mistake. So i waited until i met my boyfriend i am with now, and we are going to get married soon. I think the problem is the media. Turn on MTV and all you see is half naked girls dancing around, and people singing about sex. My little cousins who are in 2nd grade walk around singing "i want to love you and **** you..blah blah" And i know they will grow up thinking that sex is no big deal. When it is a big deal. I think it has to do a lot with schools also. I think schools need to have more than just a few days of class deticated to sex ed. Kids as young as 13 are getting pregnant and getting STDs. Anyways, that is how i feel, and i don't think you are alone in this. It drives me crazy to see such young girls dressing like the girls in music videos. It not only attracts the wrong kind of attention from boys their age, but also from older men.

Answer 4

Kids see it as a respect issue if you haven’t had sex by the time your 15 you’re seen as pathetic in the eyes of the kids that say they have. But I would think the actual number of kids that have had sex that young is lower than you think because they just say it to look good.

It was the same when I was at school im 22 now and people that hadn’t had sex were made fun of. I was one of the people made fun of because I wanted to Waite it wasn’t fun being at school but I put up with it and waited till I met the right women for me which ive done and we are now engaged.

So kids need to be taught that it doesn’t matter what other people do that its up to them to make their own decisions because at the end of the day it is their life and no one else’s.

Answer 5

I totally agree with you, and what amazes me is the percentage of young girl teenagers who have had sex, think that their partner actually has feelings for them,
girls, at that age, guys want the sex and if you're easy, you're their target!
My friend, who is 15, has got STI, one where they have had too much vigorous sex, commonly known as the honeymoon type, shes going out with an 19 year old who is clearly using her for the sex but shes convinced herself somehow that hes the one shes gunna spend the rest of her life with.

I'm 16 myself, although I'm not gunna save my virginity until marriage, I'm not gunna be stupid about it and will probably wait until I'm about 19-20 when my emotions can handle sex. Once my V has gone, i won't get it back again, so i wont let it go to waste, definitely not.

Answer 6

It has been proved that abstinence classes do not work. The money being wasted on these classes should be spent on teaching kids to protect themselves when their with their chosen partner.

The world has changed, maybe not for the better, but at least we can arm our children with a proper education on how to face it rather than trying to paint a rosy picture of something that isn't the real world.

Answer 7

I don't think we need the government involved more than they are in our lives. Kids should be better educated about sex and the possible consequences...however once a person reaches adulthood then I see no reson they shouldn't have sex with whomever they choose, provided they are responsible and open with the other person re: relationship potential or recreation only...

One can have casual sex and still be a person who feels strongly about commitment...one can enjoy casual sex and still be someone who feels strongly about fidelity...having sex doesn't mean a person has no care for relationships or family, it simply means they enjoy the act and see no reason to abstain from sex unless they are in a committed relationship...

Answer 8

i am 15 and i agree with you 100% i wish that the guys now a days would get with me because i am someone that they like altogether...not cause i look good or because i am a cheerleader....but their is no way we can be taught that sex is something special between 2 people when there are adults running around setting bad examples......that is where we need to start....with the ones that are setting the examples.....

Answer 9

We are so focused on our rights, that we have forgotten our responsibilities.

However, I don't think it is the goverments place to interferre, this change needs to come from todays parents - we need to do all we can to raise our children in the proper way, and help guide them in to becoming respectful, well-adjusted adults.

Answer 10

I'm a teenager and I've already had sex. I do agree with what your saying. But to be completely honest in this day and age it's not really possible to have that. I'm sorry to say it but it's true.

Answer 11

oh...believe me. its not just u. i may be only 15 but i wish people would wait til marriage. sex is all that most teenagers talk about. i find it kinda disturbing to hear that from all of my friends. they talk about it everyday. one of my friends is really bad about it. it drives me crazy. i hate hearing stuff like that everyday.