i've done it before but they all had titi attacks and so i just stopped because i didnt wanna deal with them anymore. i can be feminine its not like i am a stud. id consider my self tomboyish with sum feminine characteristics, but its like i prefer dressing dudish and they want me to be a young lady. so far the only person whos not caring anymore is my grandma, but its hard to dress how i want without them saying no. im not very rebelious either and its not like im dressing like a slut or something. i just wish they werent soo ughh. so now im stuck borrowing my brothers clothes sometimes. any advice?
2006-12-28 08:56:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im 15. yea they call me tomboyish and blah blah i dont care though. i can care less actually. and like my grandma she can be soo ignorant because she'll tell me that now i have to find a guy that likes girls that sometimes dress like guys and in my head im thinking omg only if she knew.
2006-12-28 09:07:10 · update #1
but they dont let me do it...... i have to sneak around.
2006-12-29 08:10:30 · update #2
sometimes...... oops i forgot to add it in the one above.
2006-12-29 08:11:13 · update #3
it wont be easy, and the funnyest part - all parents do it - is that they forbid you to dress like a dude cause they are worried. basicly, they wont let you be who you really are out of concerne. it's typical and it will be hard. how old are you? i'd advice you not to do a lot of things against their will, though, indeed, it's your life - it's kinda hard to live without a family to support you. better persuade them, than make them accept something!
2006-12-28 09:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by larissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're letting you dress boyish and just complain a lot, then do it and learn to ignore their crap. Maybe take them to a PFLAG meeting to help them become more accepting of your gender-variant behavior. There's always going to be horrible people out there to have to put up with. Unfortunately you're stuck with some of those people for a while longer. In most places though, you can move out on your own in a year or two. Three tops, even if you haven't graduated yet.
2006-12-28 22:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do. just keep dressing like a guy and hopefully they will realize that this is what makes you happy.. in the end, "wanting you to be happy" should be the only thing that matters..
2006-12-28 17:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i get what u mean when i was smaller i used to kinda dress guyish but then they started calling me boy or tomboy so now i dress like a girl and i really like dressing like a girl so i wouldnt go back to wearing baggy chlothes
2006-12-28 17:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be yourself no matter what anyone else thinks. Your parents will accept you in time, believe me. It took my parents and friends a long time to accept that I wanted to be female. They all eventually got over it and now accept me for who I am.
2006-12-28 17:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT will come in time my dear child, keep doing what ever makes you happy!
2006-12-28 16:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Helan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry I have no advice, only wanted to offer sympathy....I understand you my family can be that way sometimes
2006-12-28 17:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by MiniEinstein 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋