My ex. fiance is a great guy we just have nothing in common! and our personalitys clash in not a good way.I have begun to be attracted to one of my male friends we have know each other for 8 yrs and been friends for 5 yrs.Honestly i never saw it comming because we used to hate each other during highschool he was the popular guy who picked on me!After that we met up in college and became friends but for some reason our relationship is built on fighting/teasing each other for fun?We drive each other crazy and now work for the same company just different branches.We have started dating low key. I feel protected, safe, comfortable, and emotionally stable or loved with him.I never felt any of this with my ex.bf but i still feel something for my ex. and i know i care for him a lot should i go back to make sure?I feel bad with how things were left?
2006-12-28 08:49:20 · 5 answers · asked by Christina c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just want a way for us to settle our feelings so he wont be hurt.
2006-12-28 08:52:44 · update #1
Personally, I don't believe in second chances. I did at one time and it was a huge mistake. There's a reason that the two of you broke up. Yes, you had tons of great times, but there were things that made you believe that he was not the right person for you to marry. Maybe what you're feeling is that you're so used to having him around and now he's not and you miss that communication. That doesn't mean that you're supposed to be with him. Just imagine what you could be missing out on if you're with the wrong person. My favorite quote ever is "The last step of any journey may be the first to an even greater adventure" Who's your next adventure going to be? Don't you want to find out????
2006-12-28 08:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited till i was 31 to get married- wanted to make sure. I asked everyone.. "how do You know this person you are marrying is the right one?" Everyone seemed to say "you just know". I didnt get it.... until "i just knew". If you have any doubts - don't do it. Or... since you are not sure- PLEASE just take some time- give it a year or so- see how it goes. Sounds like you have feelings for this other guy- you just feel bad.You say your personalities clash in a bad way... when you get older - all you have are your personalities (not about looks anymore). Im no proffesional- but i hope you dont get married- doesn't seem right. You will KNOW when its right.
2006-12-28 17:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your personalities clashed that much then your better off broken up. You could go back to make sure but it might just cause more heartache for you two. Sometimes you just have to sort things out and realize when someone just isn't right for you. Took me 3 trys in 6 years to realize that with my ex. I'm glad it's over for good now.
2006-12-28 16:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no way he is not going to be hurt over this, seems since the other guy is now in your life, u are finding all kinds of reasons why u want to split with your fiance, as long as this other man is in your life u won't ever know what your true feelings are. yes u knew it was coming, just a defence mechanism to justify what your doing.
2006-12-28 17:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely seek some counseling just so you know what is going on with yourself.
The ex doesn't seem like a good match, and with the other guy you had all kinds of problems with.
It doesn't sound healthy.
2006-12-28 16:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋