I recently left a job, and I know someone (actually an old friend!) is trying to spread bad press about me. The talk is not only whithin the company I left, but around the industry with mutual aqaintences. I left a bad situation on my own accord in good standing. The information being passed around is nobody's business, and I believe it is being done in an attempt to diminish my position in the market. Should I blow it off or comfront the perpetrator?
2006-12-28 08:49:13 · 8 answers · asked by Ropholus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In a situation like this confrontation is not necessary and will be of little assistance. Wear a smile, particularly to the person who is now your enemy. Never let them know of your distaste for them. Understand that you must now treat them as a competitor. Usually negative press can easily make the messenger look bad if you maintain your composure and continue to spread your word and deed through your market on a positive level. This is going to require more effort on your part than your competitor is willing to exert on his part, but you can easily win this battle. He has already gone negative, which gives you a real leg up in your personal competition with him. Be diligent, and produce results and you will achieve success. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 09:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by dreygo64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can confront the perpetrator, but he/she is probably only going to deny it... It sounds like they are jealous that you got out of a bad situation and they did not. Now here is the question... you say that the info being passed around is nobody's business... that sounds like the info being distributed is probably true, but you just would like it if no one knew your business. Is it personal business? Is it business that reflects your professional standards? Blow it off... well, no, don't ignore the fact that other professionals might know your business... but don't make a big deal about it. Gossipers are usually known to be gossipers. And a good prospective or currently employer will bring it out in the open and give you an opportunity to explain the situation. Or, if they hire you and never mention it, then they didn't give it a second thought either. Hold your head up high, be confident in yourself, and people who are being told this stuff about you will question the teller, not your integrity... And learn the lesson from all this.... business and friendships are not always a good mix. Always keep in mind that your business partners, co-workers, and subordinates can collect personal/professional information on you and use it against you. Keep your business to yourself.
2006-12-28 17:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront the perpetrator caumly. Say "I have heard that you are spreading lies about me, and I want it to stop now". Maybe it's not true, or maybe he just feels bad about something! The main point is to stay caum and don't attack him
2006-12-28 20:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be considered Defamation of Character, or Slander, and you should find the source of this gossip, and slap them with a law suit, especially if it has in fact hurt your position.
2006-12-28 17:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell everything body that it is not true!! Then ask the guy who was spreading it why he was saying this stuff about you!!
2006-12-28 16:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Olivia♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I had the same problem, no matter what you do someones gonna talk behine your back, but if it's your freiidn confront them about it.
2006-12-28 17:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by BUBLE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that's not true and ask him why he is spreading it.
2006-12-28 16:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by ShineEStar* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up to him and tell him wh yhe does that and tell him to say infront of your face instead of everyone else
2006-12-28 16:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by anita_delg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋