I have had a sinus infection for 2 weeks now which causes me to sound very nasally and also cough ALOT....last night my hubby said that he thought I was faking the cough because it was so excessive.....this hurt my feeling terribly and I was pretty pissed off for awhile....i asked him why he would say something like that and after about 30 minutes he said he was just kidding....thoughts???
2006-12-28 08:47:15 · 21 answers · asked by Lori W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cough on him so that he will get the same thing and then after a couple weeks tell him to knock it off!!
No...I assume that you are feeling run down and although he was insensitive to you I think that you were probably a little over sensitive. Forgive him and ask him to bring you some egg drop soup from your favorite Chinese restaurant. : )
2006-12-28 08:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys rip on each other. A lot. That's just what we do.
We do it to our best friends, coworkers, etc. just for kicks, and expect it to come back around. We laugh about it and keep doing it.
With guys, everything is right out in the open, hurt feelings or not. Doesn't really bother us. Your husband is just being a guy, telling it like it is. I realize sinus infections suck, but after two weeks you should have gotten at least a LITTLE better.
Your hubby wants to know why you haven't tried something different to get rid of it. Ever heard the expression that if a guy says something that can be taken two ways and one of those makes you sad or upset, he meant it the other way?
It's true. When he said he was kidding, that's man-talk for "Oh, crap! I made a mistake and said the wrong thing! Sorry!"
Or you could be pissed at him forever. Your choice.
2006-12-28 08:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEEN THERE!!! Hunny I have been there! I also was sick and was coughing horribly and then my husband had the nerve to say I was just faking to aggrivate him!? WTF! anyway the time came when he got sick and was coughing a lot and to tell you the truth it did get on my nerves because when I would go to say something he would interupt me to cough and I thought it was on purpose but deep down I knew it wasn't. Maybe the cough was irritating him for some reason? I think thats just the way men are. And no he wasnt just joking either! He probably realised it hurt your feelings and didnt want to get himself in a hole so he lied and said that he was just joking. Forgive him men dont get it!
2006-12-28 08:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let that roll of your back!!! Marriage is to hard and complicated anyway to be worried about small things like that...He may have actually thought that, but so what...You could make a mistake like that also..Don't battle every little thing, you will find that all you will be doing is battling if you do that....Men can be very insensitive at times, but don't bust his balls unless it is important...You don't want your man thinking that you a bitchy wife..You can say calmly that you hurt my feelings b/c I have been sick and would not fake it...But I think the best thing to do is when he makes small comments laugh about them with him....Make a joke about your self like I know I sound like ****, its scaring me I don't know if I will ever get back my sexy voice...Then just laugh!! It will cheer both of you up, and worry about getting pissed at him later when he does something really wrong..(which all men do_)
So go lay on his lap and tell him you love him, and ask him to rub your head for a few min...It will make you feel better..You can even tell him that if he rubs your head and makes you feel better you'll rub his little head later...And stick to it..If he does and makes you feel better reward him...They are like children!
2006-12-28 09:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just being the typical insensitive jerk that alot of men are. If you've told him that he hurt your feelings, there's nothing more you can do....except to make sure that you cough ALL over him the next time so he gets it too..:)
2006-12-28 08:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by blueprincess37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget what he said to you.maybe he didn't really mean what he said.boys are boys and sometimes they only realize they hurt someones' feeling when they are being confronted.ignore what he said to you.forgive and forget.anyway he was sorry and regret what he did.maybe your husband wants your attention that's why he made a remark to you.he is your husband and you know him well.i hope your feelings subsided and you forgive him.so how's your infection?try eucalyptus ointment.put a small drop in a basin of hot water and inhale it.take care and God bless
2006-12-28 09:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by MACRENE PADASDAO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said he was kidding because he probably thought you were being oversensitive. I hope you didn't cry over something small like this.. be a big girl now. I'm sure he already forgot about it.. why hold onto something minor like this and let it ruin your day?
2006-12-28 08:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by supernaturaldj2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is notorious for saying "I was just joking" when he realizes he has pissed me off. He does it so I look unreasonable when I get mad instead of him looking insensitive. Must be a guy thing!
2006-12-28 09:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kristy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you kind of answered that, but that isn't very nice to kid about.
He should at least say he is sorry. You can't help it if you cough a lot
2006-12-28 08:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been married???
if that hurt your feelings, let him know, forgive him and move on from those hurt feelings..there will be alot more things in the future that he will hurt your feelings about.. we are people...living together and being with eachother, things will come up.. forgiveness and openness is key***
2006-12-28 09:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by Answers and Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋