My husband is sitting here visiting us from Canada. He has stopped supporting the family at all but has dropped in on us for Christmas with presents for the chilldren. I have no money at all. I am in serious debt from trying to keep feeding the children. How do I cope with this? I am ill with something serious as well that has just been diagnosed and am totally freaked out, as I am too sick to work. I was just about to go back to work after looking after the children at home for fifteen years when this happened. My husband had left for a new job, and then I got ill and it all feels like too much but I have to go on for the children. The treatment for my illness is too horrible to contemplate. On top of all this my husband's cruelty is just too much. I feel that he should be here to shelter the children from the impact of my illness - instead he has deserted us and curses me.
2006-12-28 08:38:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This man is a Math professor with a good job that pays well. I gave up my career to look after the children. Someone said call the police while he's in the States but what could they do? I have no family to go back to. I don't have enough money to divorce, and the lawyers say that divorce is extra expensive because he's in Canada.
2006-12-28 21:15:00 · update #1
He owes you child support. Period. Get the police there while he is there. He abandoned you. You can not force him to love his children but you can force him to support them. If he moved to Canada to escape this, move right after him and force the Canadian authorities to make him do it. You are his legal dependents.
2006-12-28 08:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by fancyname 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you just wish murder was legal? You say husband, but I don't think you have a relationship with this clown, and there's nothing you can do to make him realize his responsibilities because the guy just doesn't care. He knows exactly what he should be doing and actively chose NOT to. That's pretty much all you need to know. I hope you have family that you can turn to, because your "husband" is non-existent. One thing you could do if you really need to, is force him to take the children full time. Then he has to take responsibilty whether he likes it or not. And then you can concentrate on yourself. Obviously he's not going to.
2006-12-28 16:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he helped bring those children into the world and a real man would have no problem supporting them. By him not doing so, you know he isn't a real man and he has to live with that, not you.
2006-12-28 16:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well apply for child support and ssi you will get some help that way
2006-12-28 16:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by maya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce, and take him for half of everything....
2006-12-28 16:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋