Best way to deal with marriage separation?

Question

My wife told me in august that she isn't in love with me anymore after 10 years or marriage.She wanted a separation ,so i moved out after some very long talks with her but I still love her so much.I have tried to talk to her she just says ' I am happy with the decision I made, and every day
it becomes clearer to me that you are not the type
of person that I could be completely happy with. I
need things that you are not capable of giving me" I guess this is just something i have to deal with me and our 2 young girls....I'm not sure what i'm asking but what is the best way to deal with this ? Just try to move on and see other people? I don't think that would be fair to anyone i met in the near future....

Answer 1

Sorry to hear of your sad situation. Here's my perspective - I am a woman who wants her husband to leave. We have had a rocky relationship, we have 3 kids. It has had it's ups and downs, and he will readily admit, he has been the cause of the majority of downs.... Anyway. We have been together for 16 years, married for 13 and a half years. He is 47 and I am 36. We have simply grown apart, he knows it as well as me, but he wants to plod along still. I could do this, for the kids sake alone - but I know I will simply be waiting for them to leave home, so I can too and I have figured this would be totally unfair on all concerned. If I wait until my youngest is 18 I am looking at about another 12 years. My elder kids would have left home by then, they are already teenagers. In 12 years time, my husband will be approaching 60, and it would be worse (i believe) for me to leave then as his chances of fulfilling the rest of his life would be slimmer than if he moved on now. It sounds so philanthropic, but I geuinely do wish him happiness, I know he is a good man, but he is not the man for me anymore. Marriage vows were written hundreds of years ago, when people died in their 30's 40's and 50's if not sooner, so my bet is that it as never intended (marriage) as a long term thing anyway. That said I have total admiration for couples who remain genuinely happy into their old age. Don;t try and move on, let it happen naturally. The only thing that matters is continuity for the children. Hope you find happiness too. Good Luck. Jo x

Answer 2

Brotha my wife done me tha same way best thing u can do is live for u an ur kids right now an leave her alone act like u dont care dont b mean just act like it dont bother u an go out an meet new people an dont fall 4 tha 1st woman who shows u attention just live an do things to keep ur mind off of it an then things will come together in ur life my friend. GOD BLESS u an ur girls.

Answer 3

It sounds like she has moved on and does not want you back...so you need to move on too and leave her alone. You are the one that needs to work out your feelings, so make sure you have done that before you date someone else.

Answer 4

Fair after 10 years i would be like Fyou and meet some one that enjoys your time . belive me shell bite the bullet

Answer 5

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