My grown daughter,mailed be a ck.for money she owed me from 2 yrs.ago that her father mentioned to her on christmas an it caused a argument,since I told my husband he should'nt have mentioned it.Question is she addressed the envelope to MS..... ..... I sent the check back,with a note stating she shows no "Respect" I am her mother an was always a good mom,my husband an I don't get along at all,but I'm still married,so I am Mrs. how should I have handeled this?
2006-12-28 08:20:16 · 7 answers · asked by Lw's Lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be glad that she paid you back. Some kids don't bother to repay at all. By writing Ms. on that check, she doesn't think too much of your husband and is probably wondering why you stay with a man that you don't get along with.
2006-12-28 08:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish that was the only problem I had with my children, calling me Ms, lighten up. Your husband should not have mentioned it at Christmas, why ruin a holiday if it had already been 2 years. I would have thanked my daughter and made sure it did not cause a burden on her at the holiday season. This has nothing to do with you not getting along with your husband. She just threw the insult in because she felt like you should divorce him. She was getting even for being reminded of the loan at Christmas. So, you guys are both even. You both got each others goats. Call her thank her and tell her you love her. She is your daughter. I wish that is all my daughter had done. I would be down on my knees thanking God.
2006-12-28 16:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter how she addressed it...she may have done it without thinking and you're just blowing it all out of proportion. Stop looking for hidden meaning and go right to the source. The loan should not have been mentioned outside the parties involved in the first place, it didn't show respect toward your daughter for you to air her laundry to her father...
2006-12-28 16:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
⥠⥠thats a hard one, it caused an argument between you and your husband? maybe he shouldnt of mentioned it, did it create a hardship for your daughter? maybe she truly did forget? I take it your husband is not her father...I think maybe you should of just said thank you and gently reminded her you are a MRS not a MS now...and its possible that she is only reinforcing how you feel about your husband.... if all else fails ask her why she did that ⥠â¥
2006-12-28 16:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a dad not a mom,sorry.But i would have sent her a letter telling her want you just said, without the check in it.Now she needs to show you respect and still owes you money.
2006-12-28 21:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have banked the ck and said nothing.She probably addressed it like that cos she was angry at being embarrassed at Christmas.Now you have no money and an even angrier daughter.
2006-12-28 16:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously doesn't like your husband and it sounds like you dont either. She obviously did that to make like he doesn't’ exist. Whats the big deal really ? You don’t like him either.
2006-12-28 16:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋