One of my friends that I work with is a compulsive liar. His lies usually aren't anything hurtful,but most of the lies he tells are ways to try to make himself look good. When I first started working with him, he didn't lie that often, but he bragged about himself a lot (usually true stuff). Over the years, my colleagues and I have been catching him in lies all the time, and it's always about things that wouldn't matter anyway. It's gotten to the point where everybody makes fun of him. I kind of feel bad for him,even though it is his fault. Is there any way I can help him?
2006-12-28 08:17:54 · 9 answers · asked by Tina 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and like a lot of you mentioned, he seems to believe his own lies after a while. It's just such a shame because he's really good looking and yet his stories somehow ruin it.
2006-12-28 08:27:44 · update #1
People lie due to low self esteem. Maybe he does this so you will like him. As long as he lies are not hurtful and just petty lies, I would just let it roll of my back. He is just one of your co-workers and not like he is your best friend or anything.
2006-12-28 08:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I probably wouldn't confront someone over that type of issue. It may hurt their feelings. Just take what they say with a grain of salt. The types of liars that concern me the most are the folks that create hurtful gossipy lies about others. Those can be destructive. When someone is just bragging (lying?) about himself, he is only really hurting himself rather than others.
2006-12-28 08:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by cannonball 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a step daughter that lies to us constantly, but a few weeks later a conversation comes up and I say " I thought you said" or "you told me you did this" I always catch her off and I just tell her " oh another lie, when are you going to grow up" I also tell her " you lie so much you believe your own lies" I just embarrass the crap out of her, maybe someday she will grow up and stop.
2006-12-28 08:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by vivib 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know someone like this. I believe they begin to live in a fantasy world. They believe their own lies. It's difficult, I know. You don't know what to believe, even when they are telling the truth. Aside from befriending him, bringing the topic up gently, and eventually...eventually working up to telling him he neds help, there isn't anything you can do. You have to make a real investment in this person. The question is, are you willing?
2006-12-28 08:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you know he lies a lot, and his lies are not making you think any more highly of him. That you like him for who he is, not what he accomplishes, and that you are hurt that he feels a need to lie to you.
I'm glad you are trying to help him!
2006-12-28 08:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if people tend to lie a lot they aren't very satisfied with themselves & might be envious of others. Maybe he just needs a friend. Try talking to him in a friendly way.
2006-12-28 08:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Paris S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he is consistant so you know he is never telling the truth.
Less confusion that way.
2006-12-28 08:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop lying....that you all know he is lying
2006-12-28 08:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by eonetiller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he does it.
2006-12-28 08:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Drofsned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋