I've always felt that I would end up alone in life, I've practically planned for it. Even though I'm with a really great guy right now, I need a ton of space. It's like I want to be with him, but at the same time, I really wish I were single (not so I could date other people, but just so I could be alone and not have to cater to someone else's wants or feelings, and so that I would truly feel free to make any decision I wanted to about my future). I feel almost held back by it, even though it's a really great relationship. Even my yahoo astrological report said that I have a duality in nature that causes me to want love, but to also be free. Am I weird? Has ANYONE ever felt this way before, like me?
2006-12-28 08:09:29 · 36 answers · asked by KitKat Bar 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My sun and moon are in Leo with a Sagittarius rising. Makes for a confusing combination.
2006-12-28 08:17:13 · update #1
yes i am the same way. are you a saggitarius because that is what i am and i know we like to be independent. its nice to have someone to love you and feel important but at the same time it can be a drag and hold you back. sometimes the oppurtunities we have in life are not always set up for you and a partner and you have to decide what is more important.
2006-12-28 08:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by always thinkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first sentence, 'I've always felt that I would end up alone in life' is a direct quote from my own head in my own life! This, though, was 17 years ago. I'd had a few long term relationships but each had ended and I was resigned to the fact that I"d be alone. I was !00% happy with the idea! I wasn't looking for anyone and I was very happy in my life. I always needed a lot of space too and if a guy would ever dare say anything stupid like 'you're the girl for me' I'd almost instantaniously want to dump him. Eventually, as I weighed it all out ( I was 26) I decided settling for less than I ultimately wanted in a man was a stupid waste of time, particularly when I was happy alone. A while later I met a man who was a friend of a friend. I didn't really have a feeling about him one way or the other but we started seeing each other casually. I felt a connection that can't be described. Five weeks later I knew I wanted him in my life forever. I've been married 17 happy years and he's still the one I want. Bottom line: I don't know you but I think there's someone else for you. You're not weird or crazy I promise you. You have to listen to and trust your heart. You may be alone a while but when the time is right, the right person will come along. Good luck!
2006-12-28 08:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by coronationcats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, but I think a lot of people do also because being with someone is not Valentine's Day every day. You have to work to even have an okay relationship otherwise, it desolves. The desire to end it or be free comes from the fact that being alone, you don't have to do anything to stay that way. Most people that claim they have the best relationships really have the least fulfilling ones.
2006-12-28 08:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by Raven Rave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by binnu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not weird. i feel the exact same way. i have a great bf... but in a way i don't want forever with him. i want to be a lone wolf too. i'm not really the type that.. just settles down all ofa sudden to take care of people so quickly. i want to be in love also... but...i think you've haven;t found the love that you want forever with.
i feel like.. i'm never going to be happy with my life. and i'll be alone . though it seems scary. at the same time. its more of weird expierence. well my point is ur not alone and ur not weird. just different and different is good. but still.
i think you theres someone out there for you.that you can be "free" with.
2006-12-28 08:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of. I know that if anything ever happens between me and the one I'm with now, who I've been with for nearly two years and I love dearly, I'll be fine with it. I might become a nun, actually. (Buddhist, not Catholic.) And even my current relationship wasn't at all something I tried for--I'd been single for about two and a half years, and we just sort of stumbled on each other and there we were together. I'm happy with him, but I could also be happy alone.
2006-12-28 08:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by angk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing weird about you...you just seem comfortable being alone and enjoy your own companionship. Not everyone wants to be married or in a relationship, or have the responsibility of being with another person. It's great that you recognize it now
2006-12-28 08:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've felt this way. I wanted to be with someone but have no strings attached. I lived with someone and had to move out cause I could not share my space but now feel alone cause there's no one there.
2006-12-28 08:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by awhisper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something happened to you in your childhood that made you have a need to not need someone and you are afraid to need someone so you push people away so you dont get hurt! This is pretty easy psychology stuff! I think you should talk to a therapist before you lose someone who is good in your life. I think you should talk to this guy about your problems so he understands why you act the way you do and he doesn't just give up on you. You aren't weired you just need help!
2006-12-28 08:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you just not want to be in a relationship? I`m not going to say to break up with this guy if things are going well, but if/when you two break up, don`t get into another committed relationship until you`re sure that`s what you want. You don`t want to get into something if that`s not what you want.
I don`t think you`re weird. I want to get married, but I`m sure there are plenty of other people who want to stay single.
2006-12-28 08:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by SRAWRRR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋