OK, she never told the baby's father about the kid, cuz they broke up b4 she found she was pregnant.
She lives with her mom, and only works from like 6 to 11 pm so that she can take care of her baby.
She really likes me, and I like her, but i'm not like obsessed with her.
2006-12-28 08:01:09 · 21 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
oh yeah, that was the first time i ever been out with a girl, and obviously i've never had a gf b4.
2006-12-28 08:01:54 · update #1
well, i don't really have much money, i need it for school, so if she's after that, she'll know soon enough that i'm no good for money
2006-12-28 08:07:03 · update #2
Dating someone with a kid is complicated. Not because of you or her exactly, but because she's going to want to protect him. If he gets attached to you and the two of you break up it'll be hard on him. 8 months is still pretty young though.
Know that if she's a good mother she'll put her son first, so don't get your feelings hurt. It's great you are giving her a chance and the fact she's a mother isn't scarying you or running you away.
2006-12-28 09:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right to you, but just realize a few things. The baby MUST come first. If and when things get serious you will have to be VERY understanding if she breaks a promise because of the baby, cannot go out because she cannot find a babysitter, or needs to take the baby with you. As mentioned upstairs, it is a package deal. If you are just dating casually it won't really matter, but as you get closer you will HAVE to love and help take care of the baby as if it is your own (and if you get married and live together the baby for all intents and purposes DOES become your own). If things get serious you will need to decide whether you can handle the additional responsibility, we cannot decide for you. Let us know what happens.
2006-12-28 08:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, it was a date not a marriave proposal. I don't think she's after your money after the first date. Relax. The purpose of dating is to go out with people you like and have a good time. Here is the good thing about being a guy. You call the shots. us lucky women have to take the lead from you men as far as what level you will like to take the relationship. So if you want to just hang out with her because you don't want to become emotionally tied to a girl with baggage then be up front with her and let her know that you are interested in a friendship. you are young and you will be on plenty other dates as well. Just enjoy your youth get your education and don't over analyze simple things. Good Luck to you!!
2006-12-28 08:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take things slowly and so she she. Do not be put off if she can't always go do what you would like to do. Remember her first responsibility is her child, and hopefully you wouldn't want her if she would dump her child to go party with you. Do not spend a ton of time with the baby if you are not going to be serious with her. It isn't right to let a child get attached to you and then leave. It will hurt the child and it diddn't ask for that. Also the baby is very young and does not know his father which could be good if it did get serious the baby would be tottally accepting of you, none of this your not my daddy crap. Remember you don't have to be biological related to be a daddy you just have to love the child and be willing to help care for him. Lastly if you would not be willing to accept this child don't date her
2006-12-28 08:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to stay in school and complete your education no matter what. It seems as though this girl may have lots of issues that she needs to work through but if you like her like you say you do just take your time and see where it may lead but on the other hand this is your first girlfriend so don't put all of your eggs into one basket keep your options open you're still very young you have lots of life still to experience stay openminded.
2006-12-28 08:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Realone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by binnu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, realize that she is a package deal. So if you start getting serious with her, you will also have to be involved in the kids life as well. She seems pretty responsible, so I am sure she is going to put her kid before a guy.
Take it slow, let her know up front that you want to take it slow. If you don't think it is going to get serious DO NOT get attached to the kid!
2006-12-28 08:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by veronica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she's hoping that she can dump the baby with you... congradulations, you're a father! Time to work the graveyard shift to support your new fam... then you can come home after a long day of work, sit on the lazy boy and put on your favorite show while drinking a beer, and then demand that your wife make pot-roast for once.... HA HA
2006-12-28 08:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that her having a child should interfere at all with your relationship... I think that you should just take it at face value right now, you like each other, you enjoy each other's company, what else is there to think about? You've been on one date, I wouldn't stress about it too much. When you've been dating for a few months, sit down with her and talk about where your relationship is going and what role she wants you to play in her child's life, and go from there. This early in the relationship, just enjoy it for what it is.
2006-12-28 08:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really like this girl. Go on a second date and see how things work out between the two of you. Find out more about her, and tell her more about yourself. If she really likes you then loosen up a little bit, and be more casual around her.
2006-12-28 08:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by ringman_usa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋