I told my close female friend that I needed time away from her to clear my head after she kept giving me undecisive answers if we'll go further than friends.She said if that's how I feel then she respects that and that maybe I do need time to sort my head out.(told her I don't know what to think\do anymore about her undecisiveness,am confused,need to clear my head).
The conversation ended on this note, with her saying:
"I never feel nothing for anybody and every individual means something to me in their own unique way.Thats all I'm going to say". MEANING???
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
Not spoken for 3 weeks now(the longest ever!)Have I hurt her?Would she still be thinking about me?The friendship over?
Would she answer if I called?What if she don't answer?
2006-12-28 07:56:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For xmas I sent her a xmas card and a small teddy(saying special friend)-just saying merry xmas and happy new year. I wrote a short message how special and unique she is+ how important the friendship is to me.
Who'd get 1st in touch again?
Would this be ok??OR Would she throw the card\gift in the bin??
She appreciate it??Her reaction to the message??
p.s. gift not delivered yet, due to xmas break in post….
2006-12-28 07:57:13 · update #1
She sounds like a girl that is a great friend to have, you need to contribute to the friendship rather than put extra pressure on her. I find some guys try to force the hand of nature and attempt to manoeuvre others to create the situation that they themselves want. She is obviously a good friend to you and I feel that she will be disappointed in your wanting to make things more official between you, as your reaction to it could now spoil the friendship you had. I reckon that she will not avoid you, she will be civil and decent with you, but you will blow it all sky high if you put any more pressure on. Lighten up a little and enjoy her company and companionship. She is the kind of girl who has a lot of friends and appreciates them all in different ways. She doesn't need to rely on others for emotional support, she has enough within her. And she will find your emotionally leaning on her, tiring. So get yourself strong and rekindle the friendship in due course... take your time, things like this cannot be rushed. Who knows, one day she may need you, and if you are there.........
2006-12-28 08:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by breezinabout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grrrrrrrrrr i never understand this question
Point one
I never feel nothing for anybody and every individual means something to me in their own unique way.That's all I'm going to say". MEANING???
I think she means that everyone is special in their own way, however she feels incapable of any depth of feeling.
Point two
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.MEANING???
I think she has been hurt because in the past people have not valued her or told her the truth. She perhaps thinks because she has been undervalued by people then she trusts no one to be able to do this.
2006-12-28 15:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she's trying to let you down lightly. She is telling you she values you in the way she values all people (AND NO MORE THAN THAT), and that she wishes everyone could be like her.
That's what I would take from it. I don't see how you think anything else, based on what you've said.
You've already made first contact by sending the card and gift. What she chooses to do with it is up to her. The ball is now definitely in her court now - and HOW she contacts you next is the way she wants things to be - i.e. if she wants to meet as friends, then thats all she wants.
Move on - there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-12-28 16:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by RM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made the effort. By all means post the card etc. to her. She will not bin it. If you have not had a reply from her within a week, ring her. After all, it was you who made the break, and it should be you who attempts to reconsile. When you get back together, as I think you will, please try to establish a meaningful relationship with her. She may not be the sort of girl who likes being messed about.
2006-12-28 16:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a female so i know how this works.She probably spends her nights crying and wishing.&& then in front of her friends she acts like who gives a s h i t..dont worry she will come around.Even if she is the type of person good at holdin grudges she will evendually come around and realize she misses u as a friend.Not to worry!! Dont go out and spend $$ on things for her cause u could end up spending $$ just for it to be thrown in the bin.&& ui did nothin wrong it was her.If u ask me the best thing to do is write her a LONNGG note cause it takes time to do that and if she reads it she will understand more but if she throws it away then u will realize her true b i t c h y ness!!
2006-12-28 16:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Angela G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send her the gift. Maybe she is thinking the same thing of you. This simple gesture of reaching out might make all the difference. Tell her that you don't want your friendship to end and that you'd rather have her in your life as least as a friend. Good luck!
2006-12-28 16:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mister, your question has no answer. your problem, on the other hand does. You are suffering the Christmas blues. throw the teddy in the trash and call her and quit making the friendship thing a romance and find a girlfriend
2006-12-28 16:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by veerfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she is a little hurt and is trying to tell u by bringing other aspects in to it, u should both be straight with each other, if u dont want her in that way, then tell her u just want to be good friends, she will be hurt at first but should come around if u have been good mates before.
2006-12-28 16:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by blank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs to sort out her feeings towards people..she may have been hurt in the past but she is the only one that can find the peace...move on the relationship with her is to much work...you will meet someone who u will click with and be happy
2006-12-28 16:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude, she sounds pretty fricked up. anyway, it's nice that you got her that stuff. if you love her, keep trying and don't give up. but if you're just into her, i'd move on. if you quoted her correctly she sounds weird and contradictory and not in a philosophical way. it also sounds like she's not that into and just doesn't want to say it. good luck with that.
2006-12-28 16:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by zzzalex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋