ok my husband is on this website cherrytap and he has all of these girls telling him that he is sexy and they are calling him baby and he posted a nude picture of himself on there as well and i have told him several times that i dont like it and he deleted the picture but refuses to delete the profile. i have went into his e mail (he gave me the password and said i could go in there when i wanted) and i found a e card and i thought that i would look at it and it was from a girl and it was saying that she loved him now i dont know this girl but i am worried that he dosent want to be with me and the bad thing is that he lives in georgia right now and i live in colorado with our 3 children.in the past i have found him on dating sites he was having the stuff sent to his e mail i just dont know what to do. is he tring to tell me that he dosent want to be with me or what? should i just take a hint and leave and let him go on about what he wants to do? your advice would be great thanks so much
2006-12-28 07:53:36 · 12 answers · asked by Crystal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's cheating, even only online. He needs to realize that he's married and things are very different from when he was still single. Before marriage, even my bf (now my husband) didn't want to have anything to do with any other women. If anyone emailed him, he always showed the emails to me without being asked. And no more contact with them. I didn't ask him to do that, it's his own initiation.
Ask your husband what if you did the same thing to him, would he be able to accept that??? Talk to your husband completely abt this and ask him either to stop COMPLETELY and start be 100% honest with you, or get him into counselling. Don't think abt divorce at least for now.. think abt your 3 kids.. Marriage counselling will help, as long as the counsellor is very very good.
2006-12-28 08:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing that he doesn't deserve you and he isn't taking his vows seriously. Being on a dating site and talking to other women is a form of cheating especially if he posts a nude pic for other women to look at, that is so disrespectful to you. You deserve so much better than that. If he is doing it online there is no telling what he is doing in person that you don't know about since he is in a different state. I would either cut the ties now or call him out on it and tell him that you will not be disrespected like that and that he needs to put a stop to it, delete his profile and never let it happen again or you are gone. You need to look out for your best interest as well as your children.
2006-12-28 16:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lori J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I have had a similar situation except was not married just living together and no kids. He could want to be with you or maybe he likes having skanks on the side. Just because a girl is professing her love for him does not mean he loves her. He may be cheating...it may be physical or maybe emotional. I think you need to talk to him and see what is up. If he wants to be with you or not.
2006-12-28 16:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in two different states and MARRIED? For one thing, if it's his job that keeps him there, follow him! You married him, and you need to stay by his side unless it's too dangerous physiclly.
Ask him about this. Ask him why he's doing this. Tell him it's hurting your marriage and see what he says. It's true that it is. If he wants to leave you, he needs to. He's not good for your or your children. You're better than that and deserve more for you and your children.
2006-12-28 16:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by jdd's_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he just isn't getting the intellectual stimulation he needs from you. You know, talking helps, and if you are unable to type or speak coherently then I can understand his actions. Life is not a series of run-on sentences, and babbling will not solve problems.
If you have proof tht your husband is cheating on you, use it to divorce his sorry @ss and take your kids back.
2006-12-28 16:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not giving you a hint....he wants (for lack of a better term) his cake and he wants to eat it too.
Get out, get out and don't look back. He's a piece of sh*t and quite frankly not someone that should be an influence on children. He has no morals or integrity.
2006-12-28 16:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! looks like u're an intelligent woman and you're already on the verge of making a decision. If he is so insecure about himself and his happy marriage then you need to let him go.
2006-12-28 16:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be looking to have his cake and eat it too. I would put my foot down and tell him to either delete all his profiles and stop going on these sites or your leaving him. End of subject.
2006-12-28 15:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...that's a tough one, but it sounds like he's cheating. I mean he did give you his password, which shows he has nothing to hide, but if you are finding stuff worth questioning, then maybe he wants you to leave him. Maybe he's not sure how to tell you....Good luck!
2006-12-28 15:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't be serious. do you think you deserve to be treated this way? i am hoping for your sake that this is a joke.
2006-12-28 15:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋