ever felt like you wanted to be a different race?

Question

i always have that issue. ]=
especially when it comes to school,
usually the white kids hang with white.
& you know the rest.
i`m asian & i have a hard time fitting in.
sometimes i feel like its because of my race. ]=
i can`t even fit in an asian group b/c they won`t accept me.
they already have their group & one more person isn`t needed.
plus, i don`t like alot of the ppl in their group.

i need some help, thank you so much [=

Answer 1

I would like to be a different race, at least for just a day, to really see how it is to be in those shoes.....I think if everyone had that opportunity, they wouldn't be so judgemental of others....

Answer 2

I think this is a good example of using the "race card" you not making friends is not because you are asian, it is because you are insecure and shy. Yes in school there are the groups of people that hang out with only their "people", but there is such a huge broad spectrum of kids in the school that I am sure if you stuck to your own activites and gained a little self confidence you can easily make friends. Plus also try and remember you need to also be alittle more pro-active. Just waiting around for people to come to you does not always work, and if it has never worked it is time to start changing your habbits, you walk up to people and start a conversation. That is the reason for a few hobbies, it gives you some thing to talk about.

Answer 3

I'm white and sometimes I've wished I were Samoan. They're the only people who can fit in whether they're in Compton or Utah and they're so big that no one messes with them. They are American citizens but regular Americans can't own property on their Islands or even stay that long. They are the only American people of color who successfully made sure that the white man didn't give them the short end of the stick.

You should look for friends who have real interests instead of wanting to just fit in, that's what makes you look like a wannabe. Try sports, playing an instrument, or rapping. Once you look like you don't need them then they'll be the wannabes. Being another race with a "please be my friend" attitude just makes you look even more pathetic, even if they pretend to be your friends they won't respect you.

Answer 4

I know how you feel, I'm white but sometimes I wish I could look like one of those pretty asian girls, honestly be proud of who you are I may have pasty pale skin and pale eyes but I'm proud of my Irish heritige and you should be proud of yours!
Don't let the colour thing be an issue or a barrior to making new friends most people will see YOU not your race

Answer 5

well i don't think you should be asking that question because you are who you are and you need to accept that. As for fitting it, that can be tough for any one, no matter their race. I would just try to make friends with kids in your classes, and work from there. Even if you can only find one person to sit with at lunch or what ever, it will grow from there. Act natural.

Answer 6

I'm white and sometimes wish that I was Asian, I need the tan.
I'm sorry about your friends. Maybe you could try to join some activity's that they are in. A team or club of some sort. Make it a new years resolution.
Good luck***

Answer 7

I am sorry that you feel left out because of your race. Please don't feel that you have to change who you are in order to fit in. Just wait until college - it will get better.

It is possible that because you are a different race, others don't know how to approach you. If you are brave enough, try approaching other groups and see if you can find a common ground. Join a club that interests you (earth club? drama club?) and you will probably meet people of all different races who connect with a common interest.

Answer 8

I am asian, and I am now 58 years old, and when I was in grade achool, and high school, I was pretty much accepted by those around me. Maybe things are different now, but I don't think that things changed that much. The number of good people still outnumber the bad.

Answer 9

No i am proud to be White and British. It is not the race that makes those at your school the arrogant people they are, it is their personality and their upbringing.

You should never be made to feel an outcast because of your race.

Answer 10

Tell me about it, I'm asian too. I hate it because my crush may think that I'm ugly and I don't have many friends. My only friend is a girl named Laura. By the ways, I'm a girl.

Answer 11

I'm asian too (Filipino) I am having a hard time blending in with people sometimes but you know, my advise to you is just be yourself, be proud of your race. If no one will accept you, just be patient. A kind soul will surely approach you and be your friend.