2006-12-28 07:49:42 · 42 answers · asked by babygirl1800a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
be her friend. my sis is a lez and i'm still her sis. why should it matter?
2006-12-28 07:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by ~*RaMpAgE*~ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend, what's the difference? My best friend is a lesbian. We've been friends for 13 years and she has been open about her sexuality for the past 8 years. When she told me, I looked at her and said "and?" Do I look at her any different? Not at all. Has anything changed? Not really. When she discusses her relationships to me, I'm amazed at the fact that she goes through the same things as I do, being straight.
Another thing that you have to realize is that, gay people ROCK! Believe it or not, having gay friends and hanging with gay people is awesome. The friendship bond that you make with someone who is gay, is so deep and comfortable, it makes you wonder why straight people can't be the same. It might be hard to understand where I'm coming from but if you remain friends with this girl and meet some of her gay friends, you'll see exactly what I'm talking about.
If you can't get passed the fact that she's a lesbian then maybe you should discuss it with her, don't just blow her off. There's some people who just can't deal with the fact, and that's understandable too. However, you'll be losing out on a great experience and coming friendships.
2007-01-04 09:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by seren2lil_man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then just be her friend! do you have a problem with lesbians or something? just because she's a lesbian doesn't mean she "wants" you. she probably still wants to be your friend as well. are you worried about what other people will think of you? if she is a good friend, then you won't care.
2006-12-28 08:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then be her friend. Sounds pretty simple. Just because she's a lesbian...doesn't mean that she's going to be attracted to you. You were her friend before you found out she was gay...so nothing should stop you from being her friend now. It's like her not liking you anymore cause you don't like chocolate. It's just a little thing that shouldn't end a friendship!
2006-12-28 07:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL...oh honey...you're so sweet.
Shockingly enough my dove, your lesbian friend may not even be attracted to you! One of the most awkward moments I ever had in life occured when a friend of mine "discovered" that I was bisexual...at first she was wigged out because we had slept in the same bed or she'd gone to the bathroom while I was in the shower and other silly things of that ilk. She kept saying things like, "But you've seen me NAKED!" When she calmed down, I explained to her that I loved her, and would always love her as my dear friend, and while she was a beautiful girl I was not attracted to her...she was shocked...and than oddly enough she was pissed! After sputtering incoherently for a minute or two the first thing she said was "But you've seen me NAKED!" The moral of the story is, that while your friend may be attracted to girls it doesn't mean she's attracted to you! She does however need friends who will love her and stand by her no matter what...so if you think you can be that person, than by all means remain her friend.
2006-12-28 08:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your hesitation? I can only think of two reasons. The first is that you just don't approve and think her deviant or sinful. If that is the case, you cannot preach to her about it, you will not remain friends if you feel you must do this. You might want to examine your own prejudices in this area and seek some real information from unbiased medical assns. in regard to natural sexual orientation. If you are afraid she might attempt to hit on you, please talk to her about it. Tell her your fears in a very honest and non-insulting way. Be honest with her and she'll be honest with you. Then you two can get on with your friendship with no fear or prejudices between you at all. Good luck, I wish you the best.
2006-12-28 08:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then be her friend. Accept who she is, all of her, just like she has accepted all of you. If she is making advances towards you, tell her to stop. The fact that this girl is a lesbian should not ruin a friendship.
2006-12-28 11:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by trixpopscle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not a lesbian then she's not going to make any advances on you, even if she is attracted to you. Just be friends with her. If she recently came out, make sure you're extra-supportive of her and maybe go to a Gay-Straight Alliance or Rainbow Alliance meeting if she invites you and become an ally.
2006-12-28 07:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the problem sweety. Maybe you should expound. But I'f you don't live in a place say like New York I can see the problem. If she's a good friend stay friends with her, screw what every one else thinks good friends are too hard to come by. At least for me anyway. Good fortune.
2006-12-28 07:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend. her sexual preferance should have nothing to do with your friendship. Thats her life behind closed door,is perfectly okay,and has no measure on her ability to be or not to be a good friend,person or anything else.
But for you to wonder if you should continue your friendship bc she is a lesbian would make me ask,are youa a true friend?
2006-12-28 07:53:59 · answer #10 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why couldn't you be her friend because she's a lesbian? Just get over your own hang-ups and be a good friend to her. It's that simple.
2006-12-28 07:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by leaptad 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋