Calling All Pregnant Women,Can you Please Explain this to my ignorant husband??

Question

That Pregnancy is not a "breeze", he also said that we get to lay out on the couch,throw up a couple times,get hopped up on pain killers and push a baby out!! I thnk you need to enlighten him!!

lol you're not breaking any news to me when you tell me he's an idiot, I already knew that one!! :-)

Answer 1

Thats why men dont get pregnant. They would think its a breeze then find out what it actually is and never have another baby. The human race would be extinct. God knew what he was doing when he gave women the ability to carry and birth babies!!! There is no way a man can know what its like to carry a baby for 9 months then give birth but you know... I see it as them just being unlucky. Nothing compares to feeling your baby kick for the first time or the bond a mother has with their newborn. It may not be a breeze but I wouldnt trade it for anything.

Answer 2

Yep! That's it. . .

We get to lay on the couch after working a 40 hour work week, cleaning the house, cooking for them, deciding what is best for us and the baby to eat, and pinching a nerve in our back. That is, IF we can sleep and don't have to go to the bathroom every hour or have the leg cramps of death, while getting kicked in the ribs by the "breeze" of a baby.

As for the pain killers there is no guarentee that we'll get the pain killers if we get into the hospital too late and many people are choosing to do it the natural way.

Maybe after the baby comes out he can complain how your body isn't back to how it used to be and you never had thosse stretch marks showing in your swimsuit before... where ever did those come from?

He's absoulutley right oon the pushing the baby out! The we get to become human feedbags for the next however many months! While they sleep because they don't have breasts to breastfeed the baby so they'll continue to sleep. While we feed, change and quite the baby so the big baby can get back to sleep!

Man! What a breeze! Why didn't I do this when I was 14??? This is the life!

Good luck with that!

Answer 3

Maybe you should try renting a video of an actual childbirth. I gave birth to a 10lb 5 oz baby boy 4 years ago. This child was huge. He was 23 inches long and had a 14 inch head & chest. I had a terrible pregnancy with him. I was in constant pain from backaches and leg aches to headaches. I was constantly sick to my stomach and had heartburn from he**. It seemed like I kept a cold all the time. I was hospitalized for kidney stones in my 5th month. That was the ONLY time I had any kind of pain killers till the epidural during delivery (and that wore off before time to push). That was only with my 2nd pregnancy. With my 1st I had the nausea, the backache and my feet was swollen so bad that I couldn't wear shoes. I never remember through all three of my pregnancies just getting to lay around on the couch. See though, the good thing here is that when you go to deliver the baby, make sure that he's close by when you have the contractions and grab him by the ba**s and squeeze. Maybe then he will get a little taste of what it feels like. I wish you the best of luck with this moron (sorry). Sounds like he needs a serious crash course in sensitivity.

Answer 4

Throw up A COUPLE TIMES? He must be crazy. I lost more weight from morning sickness than any diet and had to have IVs just to keep me hydrated I was sick so often. As for the hopped up on pain killers, those can wear off long before the baby comes. Then there is the constant fear of "is what I'm doing hurting the baby?" even if all you are doing is walking to the other room. I thought my husband was stupid during my pregnancy, but I think you should get an award for putting up with this guy...

Answer 5

Ok ok Im the ignorant husband and I stand by my answer. Even though the question was wrong. I said Pregnancy was like a tough job, but overall was a breeze.

I work 40+ hours a week at a high stress job where I come home exhausted, and dont even want to move.

My personal health, I throw up daily. Im sick alot. Suffer from severe depression and mood swings. Tired all the time and have constant pain in my head from migraines, and also bone problems. Its especially bad in the winter when the cold gets in the bone and you just want to cut your arm off.

Sooooo.. Other then the 1 day of extreme pain, which I feel ive been through as well when I got hit by a speeding car. Yea its just another day at beach of life.

But for all you women who work hard and are also pregnant. I love you!! You are really special women who deserve awards.

If Lilgoth gets pregnant Ill work all the harder to make sure she doesnt have to work and be pregnant at the same time. So she can stay at home and relax. Cause as I see it, pregnancy is a hard job in and of itself and my wife shouldnt have to work 2 jobs.

Answer 6

Tell him if he want the job he can have it, but we unfortunely cann't give it to him, so we have to take it in stride.We do it over and over again because we love them. Ask him if he likes being sick most of the time and feeling like you want to vomit but most of the time you don't, and the about 5months of carring a what feels like a watermelon in your stomach while it kicks and squish your insides and then the birth trying to push a watermelon out of a opening the size of a lemon. Do he think he would need any pain killers. If this donn't enlighten him then he is yes as you said an idiot an just darn right ungreatful. When he see the baby he will want to kiss the ground you walk on and have so much gratitude for what you have given him, THE GIFT OF FATHERHOOD!!
Hang in there kiddo it will get better, He's just scarred.

Answer 7

Well first of all I work 45 hours a week and am in week 23 of pregnancy. I have never laid on the couch all day in my life. I went to work even when the vomiting was uncomfortable. Also I take no pain killers even when in labor esp. when in labor. As far as pushing the baby out well thats something no man will ever understand. I think your man is living in the 1950's while we are in 2006!!! He should grow up and realize its not all about him that sometimes life is hard for a woman too.

Answer 8

Pregnancy isn't a breeze, but I do know plenty of women who over-dramatize it, too. I'm 6 months, and, yes, there's been some discomfort and stuff, but I have another friend with a perfectly normal, healthy pregnancy who whines to everyone any time something is mildly uncomfortable. I think these women give pregnant women a bad name!

The process of birth being something where you "get hopped up on painkillers and push a baby out" though is silly. Painkillers don't always work, and not everyone takes them. Plus, some women are in labor for hours and hours!

Answer 9

I _am_ on the couch most of the time these days, but that's because I'm @#$* _exhausted_. I have no idea how women manage to keep working while pregnant. There're fairly basic things I've been wanting to do for days now, but doing _anything_ just sends me down for another nap.

Never mind my lousy mood, pimples, nice not-pregnant-but-fat body with nipples that feel like they've been purple-nurpled, etc, etc. Plus, I have to get off the sofa for the routine jabbing with needles, etc, that constitutes ante-natal "care."

At this point, I'm loathe to flog abortion as a great idea for people with unwanted pregnancies. There's no way I'd do this if I didn't want the end result.

I trust that he has swapped his nights at the pub for fish oil capsules, too?

Given the levels of pain control offered to women in labour, it doesn't look much 'hopping up.' Oooh -- something that barely relieved menstrual cramps! That'll work if I tear!

I concur with the idea that your little boy should call his mother, though there's some risk that she might've forgotten...

Answer 10

Ok...for one thing,no pregnancy is a "breeze" we all have to get that kiddo out sometime and doing it is no small feat..I have 2 kids and both pregnancies were different,you don't throw up every time you get pregnant,you dont just lay around the house all the time either..yes you do tend to get more fatigued towards the end of your pregnancy but you are carrying around extra weight and another person! If he can't have any sympathy for a pregnant woman, especially his own wife, then maybe you should find a "sympathy belly" for him to try on. If you go to a birthing class they will probably have one, if not ask your doctor for the name of someone who gives a class and contact that person to see if you can have your husband try on or borrow the sympathy belly...Good luck!