He watches it and tells me he wishes he could have a gir next door. I am due in two weeks I am getting so sick of his macho male bull ****...
Also he used to tell me he loves me and now he never does.. We hardly have sex anymore( all though I can see why?) He used to tell me I had perfect breasts and now they are lopsided or flat... I just keep thinking maybe he will love me again when this baby is out!!!
2006-12-28 07:14:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is watching the girl next door? Is she hot? Don't worry, your breasts will get big when that baby comes. He can enjoy them then.
2006-12-28 07:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as the sex, many men are uneasy having sex with their wife when she is pregnant. He may be afraid he will hurt the unborn child. I was concerned about that when my wife was first pregnant, until I asked the Dr about it.
That being said, he is being an insensitive p r i c k and you have a right to be upset by it. I watch that show from time to time also, but my wife enjoys watching it with me. If she didn't, or if I knew it bothered her, it would never be on my TV. His comments are also understandably hurtful, although he may not know that you don't think the comments are funny like he does if you haven't told him how he is making you feel.
You need to be sure to communicate your feeling with him in a way that isn't an attack to him. If you approach him with an attitude of, "honey, I know you don't mean to, but here is how I feel when you say these things", hopefully he will listen with an open heart and try to treat you with the respect and consideration you ask him for. If not, he is really the a s s h o l e he seems to be.
2006-12-28 07:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship. No woman carrying a man's baby should be made to feel that she is second best to anyone, emotionally or physically. He should love you for who you are, big belly, flabby breasts and all. MOST women come off on the worse end appearance-wise after having a baby, and you should not be made to feel bad about yourself. DON'T let him treat you this way. If he's acting this way now, it shows his personality, and this is not someone you want to have raising your children.
2006-12-28 07:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a chick and I love that show. I think watching the show is no big deal but he is being a total jerk anyway. I don't understand why some men feel they have to be demeaning. Usually it's because they are insecure themself.
If worse comes to worse- Tell him he's small and horrible in bed next time he's mean to you and ask him how he likes being treated like dirt.
2006-12-28 07:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by K W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when he first started telling you these things you should of nipped it in the bud right then and there. He is being disrespectful toward you and you should not allow any such behavior. When he starts saying those things tell him go get some of that girl and never return under this roof again.
2006-12-28 18:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the????
Are you crazy? Let's get this straight....
Your pregnant, having his child, he disrespects you by lusting after other women, doesn't make love to you or tell you he loves you, criticizes your body... and most of all you are agreeing with him about how he views your body. WOW!!!
He treats you the way you allow him to treat you. Get it together. Seek marriage counseling even if he doesn't go. Check that behavior, because you don't want your child exposed to a father who doesn't respect or love you as his wife.
You're a beautiful person.... view yourself as such. Your carrying life... view your life and the life you're carrying with value. Your body is beautiful inside and out.. it's yours and you should dress yourself accordingly (meaning as beautiful as possible), pamper yourself, take some hot baths, wear pretty things to bed even if you're not being made love to. It will make you feel wonderful. When you wake up dress as nice as possible, wear beautiful underwear ALWAYS..some make up each day even if it's just blot powder or bronzer, lip gloss and blush (MAC is GREAT!) even if you're not going anywhere, this will help you with your attitude and self esteem. Command... not demand respect. Walk and talk softly but carry a big stick. Walk like you're a supermodel... (but be as humble and sweet as pie in your heart)
Your husband has some DEEP issues... he has a macho attitude because he doesn't really understand or know how to be a true man. He may not even know how to love...Probably given no positive examples while growing up of how to treat a woman correctly or the wrong influences affected how he relates to women. No excuses however, he needs to recognize he's jacked in the head and get some help.
In either case don't allow his negative infectious behavior to poison your thinking about yourself or your childs development. Get counseling, set some boundaires and guidlines in your marriage, stick to your decisions about what you will tolerate/not tolerate and carry them out. And PLEAZE! Don't ever speak negatively about your body again. It's true every ones bodies (male/female) go through changes (including your macho husband)... When you have the time start doing some exercises it will ease some stress and help get you back in shape. Do it because you care about yourself... not because you want him to love you. Pilates is really great exercise tool and will whip you back into shape quick fast.
You were created by an AMAZING and AWESOME God. and He doesn't make junk! Love yourself, your child and hopefully your husband will go to marriage counseling with you and be able to find out how to resolve his past issues in order to become the kind, loving thoughtful man and husband he should be.
Be Blessed!
2006-12-28 08:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...i think you two have bigger issues than your husband liking the girls next door...
my husband watches that show too, but i watch it too...the story is simply for entertainment.
sorry that i don't have the best answer for this one, but i've heard stuff like this happens when women get pregnant, and i guess it gets better after the baby is born, but if he is putting you down about your appearance, you really need to nip that in the butt before you get your feelings so hurt that you start looking at yourself negatively.
2006-12-28 07:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a jerk. Women are so sensitive when they are pregnant and he is just being an a$$. He should be reported as a peeping tom if he is watching the girls next door. Shame on him.
2006-12-28 07:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop being such a jerk. Is he the stud he was before? Tell him he probably couldn't even get a girl like that even in his younger days. He needs to outgrow this adolescent fantasy and love the woman who cares about him.
2006-12-28 07:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because he is an inconsiderate jerk off that, if he continues acting the way he acts, will lose the girl indoors. Big dumbie do not know what he has good. Listen when you have that baby make him eat his words and make him sweat.
2006-12-28 07:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by starsmoonis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋